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Is it normal? Question for lesbians

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Heather987, Jun 9, 2019.

  1. Heather987

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    Hi

    Is it normal for a girl in a relationship and inlove with another girl to text her childhood female friend everyday all day nonstop with goodmorning and goodnight every single day and sharing intimate details and pictures?

    This childhood friend was her first love and the first girl she sexually fantasized in terms of boobs

    Is it normal that she told her childhood friend she wants to spend the rest of her life with her in their dream childhood house?
     
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    Hey, is this by chance your girlfriend that is doing this. It is a difficult thing to call because everyone is different, I mean I think a reasonable amount of texting is fine, intimate details, I guess it would depend what they were. I think telling her she wants to spend the rest of her life with her oversteps the mark though.

    Have they ever been together or was it just a one way crush?
     
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    I guess they had a mutual crush but never actually talked about it cz both of them r from religious families

    And yes she was my girlfriend
    And we broke up because i found out she texts her and deletes the messages to hide them from me

    She says she only does that cz she is scared of me reading the messages and snapping at her cz they r talking

    She is begging me to come back toegther and says i am the one she wants and that she is sorry she hid messages but she only loves me

    I dont believe her tbh and as much as i am insanely inlove with her i had to leave

    I donno if i did the right thing though
     
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    How long ago did you break up?
     
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    They were never together to actually break up

    She was her first love at the age of 10

    Then they stopped talking for a while

    Then they talked again at the age of 20 when my gf was engaged and inlove with a guy and she said she got all the feelings back at that time
     
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    Sorry I meant how long have you been broken up with your girlfriend
     
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    A week
     
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    You did the right thing. It sounds like your ex was in a difficult emotional situation in regards to this lost love of hers, but that doesn't make it fair for her to exchange intimate pictures and have desires of spending her life with someone else while talking to you. That's clearly cheating if you ask me and I'm glad to hear you did what was best for your emotional well-being.
     
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    It's still pretty raw and painful then. I'm sorry this happened to you. It will get better.