Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by BlueMonday, Apr 26, 2021.
That, or the gay guys in my area are way too chatty for my taste.
Nah, there are many gay men who are very shy and/or introverted. But keep in mind, what you are seeing is a non-representative sample. The guys you are talking to are probably the ones who are inherently inclined to be extroverted. The introverted ones are sitting at home reading books.
I think it's pretty evenly divided but as with any community you hear more from the extroverts, just because they're extroverted. One thing I will say is that it's fairly common for closeted people to feel like they are naturally introverted and to realize after coming out that they were just always uncomfortable before and may be naturally more extroverted than they thought.
There are some who are faking it til they make it. Beneath the extrovert exterior is someone who is shy and rather self conscious. If you meet them in a social situation where they exhibit lots of confidence it may come from a drink or two beforehand. When the bright lights are turned off and sobriety kicks in the social extrovert fades away.
The extroverted people are simply more visible. I know plenty of lgbtq+ people who are very reserved.
I used to think homosexual people are very brave when I was younger. Now I realise it was because being openly gay is a wildly courageous act in some societies. Simply, I was able to see only courageous ones.
I think being gay made me extraverted. It made me care less about how people see me... and it made me see how small some of the details I used to care about really are. I also think, telling people really personal details, made me better at doing that, and it showed me how strong relationships can sometimes form.
Not that it's wrong to be introverted. I'm like that around people I share little in common with. I think there's a time and place for being the center of attention. Sometimes it's not always that time.
-screams in INTP and bangs head on the keyboard- Maybe it would be easier if I was extroverted but I can’t even remember how to speak in social conversations.