Hey, all. I'm not really looking for advice or anything. More just trying to get this out of my head, I guess. So, a couple of days ago I saw a friend for coffee. It was the first time I'd seen her since December, so I was pretty happy. As we're sitting in her car, drinking our coffees, she's catching me up on everything that's been going on lately. Partway in, she mentions how her husband-to-be (friends with my husband, and while I'm not sure he views me as one himself, I do count him as a sort of friend, too) has not been himself of late. Amongst other things, he's been oddly jealous and suspicious. Following that, she said he was even a bit jealous that she and I were having coffee. When I asked why, she said, "He thinks we're going to make out, or something." After my bewildered "What?" she went on further to explain that she'd been honest with him about how she'd experimented with other women in her younger years, supposing that's where some of his insecurities lay. But to me, it felt like she threw that in because she knew where my head had gone; to wondering if he knows I'm bisexual. She knows, like many others, because when I posted it publicly on social media, she saw it. And while I don't hide my orientation, I haven't exactly announced it for all to hear outside of that post over a year ago. Which means if he knows, he knows through her--which isn't a problem, because I wouldn't have come out if I was worried about word getting around. Had that been a concern, I would have limited who I told. But naturally, this has me begging the question: Was his reaction really just borne of knowing her past explorations? Would he have reacted the same way had she been having coffee with any other female friend? Or is it because it's me that it got him all twisted? To clarify, she did express him having mistrust regarding another male friend as well, so these issues are in all likelihood something he's dealing with internally--and to further clarify, he's at least talking to her about these feelings and seeing a therapist, so I don't want to give the wrong idea that he's a terrible, possessive, toxic guy. I don't know. I just get the sense that my orientation must have come out in conversation, probably when I came out, and that, coupled with her own experiences makes him expect the worst. At the same time, I can't help wondering if I'm just being paranoid. Still, it makes me wonder what to expect the next time I see him; whether if he's not being himself, if it's something I'm going to see as just him (as my husband has even said he's not been himself the last few times they've seen each other) or if I'm going to inevitably feel like I'm part of the problem. Anyway, sorry for the long, jumbled post. This has just been bugging me for a couple of days and I guess I just wanted to see what others might think, or if anyone has been in a similar situation.