Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Em13, Oct 10, 2017.
Thank you Rana!
Thanks Questionsabound. I'm about 2 hours from Boston but I might still check it out. I'm in Eastern CT.
first of all welcome. i came out partly 3 years ago, im 50. i came out totally about my sexuality last year. now im working the plan to come out about my gender next spring. you sound like you're ready and one thing i've learned is it's never to late to be the person you were meant to be. HUGS.
By no means is it to late! You are just starting on a journey of self discovery that will have many adventures, challenges and some bumps ahead. It is all the normal progress of acknowledging and accepting your homosexuality. You find the ride both exciting and scary but worth the trip. I can honestly tell you one year this path I have never been happier to say I am a gay man and openly embrace all that entails. I think you find there are more and more of us later in lifers discovering how totally liberating our homosexuality is for us!
Never too late friend!
I know people who came out on their deathbeds.
Thank you Contented. I do have to say that it does feel good to talk about this. The more I talk to fine folks like yourself the better I feel. I’m still only out to my therapist and people on this forum. But I’m sure that will change in the future. I wish I found this forum a while ago.
52 is not too late! Just like everyone else says. It's never too late. It is definitely emotional to do. At least for me it was. Wanting a relationship is great too. Find a gay support group or something? Gay bars really aren't that scary. Find one and get up the courage to go. It would be good just to find a friend who is gay. Find out gay friendly towns and go see what it's all about. Taking a vacation to Provincetown MA and trying to meet people just to talk to would be a neat getaway. Gay dating apps are also an idea. Some of them are more like hookup apps though but there are guys on them who are decent and are maybe just looking for friends or realationahips. Good luck!!!
not too late at all!
a week end at an organised gay retreat may help you catch up! http://www.eastonmountain.org
You're a beacon of light and a shining star and these are the best years, the ones right now. Well done you, for every thing you have confronted and walked on by. Never forget you are truly courageous. Thank you for writing and creating this post that has created the space for so many to write, reply and share and inspire. Bravo.
Em13, never posted anything on here but I identified with your story a lot. Came out last year at 40. Never been in a relationship of any kind and live in a rural and not so tolerant area. I have found that it is harder to make gay friends than it is to hook up. But it's important for me will hopefully help with my social anxiety and depression. Coming out is one less thing to weigh your shoulders. It makes you more open to the world and able to receive friendship and maybe more from another person. My friend quotes Ru Paul to me all the time...god bless her! & Good Luck to you
“If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”
Thanks for the kind words. I to am struggling with depression with all this stuff. I’m finding these forums very helpful. It’s great that you starting to post. I lurked around for a while before I made my post. If you want to talk about anything, (seeing that we’re both kinda in the same situation), feel free to send me a note. It might help both of us. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
Hi Jeff, Thanks for the message. I am not sure how to message someone directly?
Maybe you can on your end.
Thank your lucky stars that you have discovered yourself while still so young! In this you and I have a lot in common, having come out at around the same age; frankly, I wouldn't have it any other way! I find this age to be such a wonderful combination of still lingering youth, tempered with a half-century's worth of wisdom!
We should all realize that in life, there are no mistakes, you have lived your life as it had to be, no regrets, no longing for a past that no longer exists, no creating in your mind those pesky "what-ifs" ...consider yourself a clean slate, open to all possibilities!
Grasp every shred of experience you can, these early years are an amazing chance to learn and to make new friends, get out there and enjoy yourself, there are a ton of people who would benefit from your experience.
Most of all, I wish upon you the grace that befalls those who fall in love, often for the first time ever, to love as you have never loved before!
Thank you so much Great whale!!! That was awesome. I really appreciate you post.