Did anyone consciously engage in homophobic behavior before coming out yourself? Was it conscious or subconsciously something you did? Or was it out of fear of the idea of having a same sex attraction? Did you ever harass or bully someone you thought was gay? Did you ever apologize to some you did harass after realizing you’re gay? Personally I’ve known I had some attraction to other boys growing up but didn’t really what to call the feelings I had. In middle school was the first time I was ever accused of being gay, I guess something was obvious to someone. But I also started to really notice boys. Ironically my two friends in 7th and 8th grade are both out gay men today and I’m still closeted. I didn’t really consider that I might be gay until the end of high school or come out to myself until my mid twenties. Despite any internalized homophobia when did you come out to yourself or publicly? more did you have a homophobic bully who eventually came out?