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Inadvertently back in the closet

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by bigeagle, Jun 27, 2020.

  1. bigeagle

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    Hi guys,

    Well.... I’m back!! I think it was 5-6 years ago when I first came across this website and I used it extensively for help and support. At the time I was going through the breakdown of my marriage - primarily due to my ‘sexuality confusion’ and my feeling that I was living a lie.

    I ended up leaving my wife, on an amicable yet very emotional basis (yes I held huge amounts of guilt for her pain and distress) and told various people that I’d left her because I wasn’t straight.

    I’ve decided to come back in here today (possibly inspired by Pride month) - I’ve not made much progress In terms of trying stuff with guys and seem to be back in the closet?! I need to take the next few steps... x
     
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  2. DecentOne

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    Welcome back bigeagle.

    EmptyClosets seems to be having difficulties, so I can’t go back and read your story in old postings. So I don’t understand what might be holding you back about making progress with guys - since your marriage is over, I’d think you’d have freedom (up to COVID shut downs) to do a little exploring. In general I’d say, move at your own pace. Take those next few steps as you are ready. But also realize that means overcoming fear and discomfort.