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In the closet trip to the Big (gay) Apple?!

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by mochii, Oct 6, 2015.

  1. mochii

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    So I am in the closet. I met a girl from Hong Kong on a blogging site over a year ago and we message frequently (just friends) and she is the only person in the world who knows about my questioning and being pretty sure that I am gay. She is gay as well. I live in Mass and she is attending school abroad in NYC for a whole year.

    SOoo, we thought it would be cool for me to visit for a weekend and we can have a whole gay weekend together, exploring the gay areas and going to gay bars, etc. I'm not concerned with safety, and the host mother she is staying with is gay-friendly and told her she can have friends stay over. But the thing is, I wouldn't be able to tell anyone where I am going for the weekend, I won't mention it to family because I live across state anyways, and I would have to tell my roommates I'm going home or somewhere else, especially since they've been dying to go to nyc this year.

    I am absolutely nervous to venture by myself and be out for the first time to total strangers, but I thought this would be a healthy opportunity for me to explore myself. If I miss the chance, I'm not sure when the next one will come. So I was wondering what you guys think of the idea? Has anyone else taken a trip like this or gone out into the gay world while they were still in the closet? I would like to hear any feedback:slight_smile:
     
  2. andimon

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    If you trust her entirely you should take a shot. Besides, a little change can't hurt.
     
  3. Aspen

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    I think it sounds like an awesome trip. At home, I'm entirely in the closet but over the summer my girlfriend and I went to a concert out of town and, for a while, I didn't have to hide. My experience was on a smaller scale but it was a pretty amazing feeling.

    I do think you should at least tell someone where you're going, just to be on the safe side.