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I'm RJ

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by RJH, Mar 15, 2019.

  1. RJH

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    Hi. I'm RJ. I'm in the process of being divorced and will soon be single. I've always had an attraction to men, sometimes a very strong attraction, but I was raised in devout Christian family (i.e. they didn't let me attend the lessons at school about evolution or even read C.S. Lewis, etc.). I have not had any intimate encounters with men and gosh, I'm kind-of scared!
     
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    A warm welcome to you RJ ☺️
     
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    Thanks!
     
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    Hey :slight_smile: welcome to EC! You’ll find a ton of support here for sure. I was very surprised when I joined to find I wasn’t the only man married to a woman going through this process, so definitely jump in to the support threads when you feel comfortable :slight_smile:
     
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    Welcome. You aren't alone.
     
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    Hello RJ and welcome to Empty Closets! You are not alone in trying to overcome your fears; with time, things fall into their own place. Feel free to post and have a read through discussions. The LGBT Later in Life Sub-forum might be a good place to start; I'm sure you'll find a couple of members who can relate and are willing to share their stories.
     
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    Thank you. I really wish my wife and I could be friends. That's really all we were for many years anyway, but she has completely rejected me now.
     
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    Sorry to hear that RJ. (*hug*)

    It is possible that your wife will be able to return to the friendship that the both you had once she has come to terms with everything and is ready to turn the page. The passage of time can be a good healer but it might take quite a bit of time.
     
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    God bless you, man!