I'm gay. But how do I tell my girlfriend that?

Hello SomewhereQuiet! Welcome to EC!

There is really no right or wrong way to Come Out to your girlfriend, but I would say that since you are in a relationship with her, your thought process that she deserves to know (and be the first one that you Come Out to) sounds very solid.

It sounds like you really love her, but really in a best friend way and not in a romantic/sexual partner way.

You know her best, so would a straightforward method work when you Come Out to her? Are there things you might have been doing or small indications you've been showing her that could indicate that you are not longer happy with your romantic/sexual relationship with her? If so. could you start out by telling her that you want to explain why you've been acting oddly? Can you simply tell her that you've recently come to an acceptance of your sexuality and that you need tell her?

Just some thoughts.

 

I went through the same thing a couple months back dude; I just flat out told her. "Look; I know you may not understand, but I have to tell you this. I don't want to live a lie and make things get worse for the future of us both. Its really hard for me to explain this to you; so Im just going to be completely honest. I'm gay. Since we are in a relationship, I figured that I'd have to tell you sooner or later. Were not suppose to lie to each other. I know this may be a shock for you. But I had to tell you. I know this might confuse you, but just please understand. Its better that I tell you now and not down the road from now. Your the only one I've told so far, that means something. You are the only one I've trusted to tell at this very moment. ". Something like that. Tell her In person if you can, I basically texted to my girlfriend about it, and I couldn't tell what she was feeling at the time.

Good luck. If she loves you, she'll understand. Its better for this to be said now then later. Before its too late.