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I'm coming out to my last child this weekend

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Fritzcoop, Nov 27, 2019.

  1. Fritzcoop

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    I have 3 kids. I've come out to 2 of them and my wife. My oldest lives out of town and is coming home for Thanksgiving. So it's time. I hope she takes it as well as my boys did. She and I have always had a special bond. She is closer to me than my wife (her mother). She confides in me when she can often talk to no one else. I think she'll be ok but have problems with us splitting up. But I can see the pain on my wife's face. We can't stay together and me be me. It's killing her. I don't know when I'll do it. Before the family comes or after they leave. Wish me luck!
     
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    Good luck Fritzcoop! I've been through it too with my two daughters. The end of the marriage was harder for them than finding out dad is gay, but they've adapted well and our relationship remains strong. My older daughter is now applying to college and she wrote about my coming out for her essay, which was really touching.
     
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    Best wishes to you. Sounds like you’ve raised a pretty great kid. Hope it goes as well as possible
     
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    Best of luck and congratulations. Hope it goes well.
     
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    So I think it went okay. She's told me she's okay and processing it. My wife was a total monster about it. She is really acting out through drinking and screaming at me everywhere we go. Except around her Father. I'm just grateful that my kids (all adults)are supportive.
     
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    Just gotta say it takes a lot to come out in these circumstances and you are handling it in such a respectful way to everyone! That speaks volumes about you :slight_smile: keep your chin up
     
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    You guys help a lot! Thanks so much.
     
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