I've been on this site for a long time, and this is the first time I'm posting anything. I need some support and/or advice. I'm a trans man, pre-op. I don't present as this 100% of the time, as I'm still around my family, who don't know. I am completely out to most of my friends, and my partner. I have been out to myself for 10 years, after many years of questioning, and have lived presenting full-time as a man before(when I went to school out of state). My issue comes with my partner....a straight man. I've known him for many years, and have been dating him for about a year. He did not know previously, so I came out to him within a month of the beginning of our relationship. At the time, I knew he was straight. I knew it wasn't fair for him not to know. I told him, fully expecting a break-up, but to my surprise, he seemed to accept me. We are deeply in love, and I'm sure this is the man I want to marry. It seems a little weird to me that he could still love me, being straight and not being attracted to other men, but we've been trying to learn more and overcome our obstacles together and work through everything. Now down to the issue: we are currently long-distance, and the plan was for me to move closer to him at the end of the year. His family has not met me, but they have seen pictures of me when I presented as a woman, and this is how he refers to me with them. He is very involved with them, so avoiding them is not an option. The subject never came up before, but I decided that I would like to finally start transitioning. We've talked about this, and he fully supports me, but...this entails a sort of coming out to his family, especially if I move to his area. He's scared to do this because he doesn't know how they'll take it or if they'll accept him, and I understand because I have the same issue with my family. We talked about it, and he's admitted that it would be easier for him if I just lived as a woman there. I'm exhausted, I want to get away from my family, and I want to be who I am, so I don't really want to move to his area if this is the solution. He's taken this as me trying to force a timeline on him for coming out, it's making him feel pressured because he really wants me there within the original timeframe. Frankly, I want to post-phone the move until we're both ready for it(aka, I want him to be okay with me and ready to come out, and I want to be confident to live as who I really am). But...I don't feel fair asking him to come out at all in any timeframe considering I'm not out to my own family. I feel like I'm putting a lot on him, and he shouldn't have to deal with any of this, and I'm at a breaking point because I don't know what to do. I don't have many people I can talk to about this, and there are no good support groups in my area. I'm currently in-between therapists, so I really needed somewhere to get this off my chest and ask for some advice.