1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

If you're single, why do you think so?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by lovetoomuch, Dec 9, 2018.

  1. Noahand2

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jul 12, 2017
    Messages:
    34
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    North Carolina
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Some people
    I will say that I am picky and I dont put myself out there. I'm also fast nature everything I do is fast including relationships. Which drives them away but I dont find out that I'm going too fast until it's too late, and they break up with me.
     
  2. ThatBorussenGuy

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Aug 28, 2015
    Messages:
    2,054
    Likes Received:
    19
    Location:
    Between the posts
    Gender:
    Male (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Other
    Out Status:
    A few people
    I don't think I know, I know why. It's because I'm aromantic asexual, and have about as much use for a relationship as I do for a third nipple.
     
  3. Verklighet

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jun 13, 2018
    Messages:
    128
    Likes Received:
    26
    Location:
    Washington
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Straight
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I have no luck with people IRL i think because I am shy and not super attractive (but I think I'm beautiful and so
    is everyone else in their own way), but people online always like me really quickly because I talk and laugh more and
    they seem to really like that.

    But I always have a problem with it because I may like them a lot, think I am in love even, and then that
    love will die, and I think we are super close friends, while the other person might still be further behind
    and always stay there, so it gets a little weird from my side, but I have only told someone I don't love them
    once (when he was always telling me he does) after... a year of telling them I do and that made them
    very unhappy. I'm kind of in a situation like that again, but I don't think I will tell him that anytime soon.

    I met another kid on my gaming console last night who seemed super into me, let's hope
    we don't go down that path.

    I don't know why this happens every time.
     
  4. Disarray

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Dec 15, 2018
    Messages:
    27
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Southwest
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Some people
    I'm quick to blame my looks an issue, but in the grand scheme of things I'm pretty average and I think it's an easy thing for me to place my lack of relationship/inability to date on it. If I were more attractive I'm sure it would be easier, but I don't think it's my main issue.

    I'm very introverted and quiet and stay to myself, don't get out a lot, kind of a shut-in. Live in kind of a smallish area; afraid of getting close/vulnerable with another person... especially given some "quirks" about me and things about me that I feel like most people wouldn't be comfortable with. My one and only relationship ended over 2 years ago and I've still been too afraid to venture out and meet someone new since then. Struggle with mental health and genuinely want to improve/become healthier before I enter a relationship with someone, which is another huge factor in my trepidation with dating.

    I also don't mind being single a lot of the time and enjoy the freedom that comes with it, but I do feel afraid of being single for the rest of my life, if I'm being honest...
     
  5. Lgbtqpride

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Nov 3, 2018
    Messages:
    283
    Likes Received:
    65
    Location:
    Earth
    Gender:
    Genderqueer
    Gender Pronoun:
    They
    Sexual Orientation:
    Other
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Because I am not in love with anyone currently.
     
  6. Mirko

    Admin Team Advisor Full Member

    Joined:
    Apr 26, 2008
    Messages:
    17,332
    Likes Received:
    1,966
    Location:
    Northern Hemisphere
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    At the moment, I choose to be single. I enjoy my life the way it is at the moment and I feel quite comfortable with it. Being single, I have more freedom in doing the things I want to do. Being an introvert, it helps me with taking and having days/weekends just to myself without having to explain it, or needing to consider a boyfriend's needs as well.

    I have gone on quite a few dates but most of the time, I was left with the feeling that the person sitting across from me didn't fulfill what I was looking for. More often than not, authenticity, readiness for being in a relationship and thinking highly of themselves, became an issue and indeed major turnoffs. After giving it lots of thought I felt more at ease with letting things happen on their own terms. In the meantime, being single, is great.
     
  7. bulbul

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 5, 2014
    Messages:
    109
    Likes Received:
    3
    Location:
    Saudi Arabia
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Not out at all
    1) I live in a place where being gay is illegal.
    2) bottling up my feelings all my life damaged me beyond repair.
    3) confidence issues.
     
  8. Verklighet

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jun 13, 2018
    Messages:
    128
    Likes Received:
    26
    Location:
    Washington
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Straight
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I'm sorry..
     
  9. Cas girl

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Feb 17, 2017
    Messages:
    346
    Likes Received:
    37
    Location:
    India
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    The reasons I wouldn’t be able to find a boyfriend.

    I am overweight and that’s a big turn off for most people here.
    I am above average, education wise.

    The reasons I won’t be able to maintain a relationship even if I find a significant other.

    I have commitment issues.
    I tend to lose interest in most things after 5–6 months.
    I am very insecure and become very possessive when I get insecure which is a problem.
     
    #29 Cas girl, Dec 17, 2018
    Last edited: Dec 17, 2018
  10. Lgbtqpride

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Nov 3, 2018
    Messages:
    283
    Likes Received:
    65
    Location:
    Earth
    Gender:
    Genderqueer
    Gender Pronoun:
    They
    Sexual Orientation:
    Other
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Something is very wrong with this world, it is illegal to love but legal to hate.
     
    #30 Lgbtqpride, Dec 17, 2018
    Last edited: Dec 17, 2018
  11. Sealgirl19

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 18, 2016
    Messages:
    195
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Chicago
    Gender:
    Female
    I don't go out often.
     
  12. CactiCat

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Nov 23, 2018
    Messages:
    146
    Likes Received:
    16
    Location:
    West Virginia
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Some people
    I’m kinda done with love.
     
  13. Nightlight

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Mar 30, 2018
    Messages:
    411
    Likes Received:
    48
    Location:
    East Asia
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    - I'm constantly tired
    - Absolutely no fucking luck in dating since birth
    - Confidence issues
     
  14. Lari

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Apr 3, 2018
    Messages:
    34
    Likes Received:
    6
    Location:
    Brazil
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    You know? I'm really feeling this right now.
     
  15. Browncoat

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jul 2, 2011
    Messages:
    4,053
    Likes Received:
    9
    Location:
    Zefram Cochrane's hometown.
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    They
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    - shite social skills
    - working 60+ hours per week
    -unwillingness to date people who aren't queer in some way (and preferably only other bi/pan people)


    oh yeah, someone above mentioned though I had forgotten - pretty ugly by most people's standards. I mean, I actually think I'm quite attractive by what gets me going, but unless you like bears you probably wouldn't like me.
     
    #35 Browncoat, Dec 18, 2018
    Last edited: Dec 18, 2018
  16. jenne

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Mar 6, 2016
    Messages:
    226
    Likes Received:
    22
    Location:
    Neverland
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Questioning
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Because I'm very unlucky :frowning2:
     
  17. Loves books

    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 4, 2017
    Messages:
    1,083
    Likes Received:
    86
    Location:
    Ireland
    I live 5 miles up a mountain and haven’t talked to anyone barring my family, some of their significant others and my dog in about a year. Not my choice just zero social opportunities.
     
  18. DreamyDoll

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Oct 29, 2018
    Messages:
    8
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    North-East Britain
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    - I don't go out much except for school
    - I'm at an age where only 'cool' people get into relationships
    - I have a reputation for being weird, and it's true
     
  19. Chiroptera

    Admin Team Full Member

    Joined:
    Mar 11, 2014
    Messages:
    2,254
    Likes Received:
    1,130
    Location:
    Brazil
    Gender:
    Male
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    I miss having a boyfriend, but I still didn't find anyone interesting enough for me. I find most guys and girls boring, stupid or simply too different from me.

    I'm believe I'm really picky, but I don't think that's a problem. Of course, perfection isn't real, but I also don't think I should just pick anyone, without considering some basic characteristics I value.

    Im open for a relationship If I find someone interesting. In the meantime, I enjoy my time with my games, friends, books, family and pizzas (without having to share! Muhahahahha) :wink:
     
  20. LostLion

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Aug 9, 2014
    Messages:
    407
    Likes Received:
    5
    Location:
    United States of 'Murica.
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Some people
    Long list:
    - I have developed commitment issues over the past few years
    - I'm scared of potentially being in a relationship with either gender
    - Dealing w/ a lot of internalized self-hatred related to my sexuality journey and the anti-LGBT culture I grew up in
    - I might be out to my immediate family and my close circle of friends, but I feel that having a same-sex relationship would open up wounds that were not explored before. If I date a girl, the bisexual question becomes complicated in terms of how do I tell her/when do I tell her
    - General self-esteem and self-confidence issues
    - I'm unaware of when people crush on me
    - I move around too much and don't have time to build up a real social life
    - There are people who I admire and respect that I have not come out to and I know they are not pro-LGBTA
    - Depression and anxiety issues make me feel like I wouldn't be a good partner
    - My weight issues
    - my political views on non-LGBT issues make me feel like I wouldn't be accepted by a same-sex partner or even by a female partner in many cases