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If sexual orientation were a choice, what would you choose?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Tritri, Jul 26, 2021.

  1. Michael

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    Bisexual.
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    Being gay has brought a lot of pain to my life. But over time it has also caused me to take a sincere look at myself, something that I don't think I would have done if I was straight. Coming out has been both difficult and wonderful. It has driven me to some very emotionally wrenching moments while at the same time those moments have lead to the most wonderful times of release and bonding with people who have come to mean so much to me. When I was younger I wished fervently to be released from the curse of being gay. Now I feel differently. Now I cherish those moments of coming out, those moments of acceptance that resulted in a connection with another person that will last for the rest of our lives. Now I wouldn't change my sexuality in spite of all the difficulties it has caused. I am a part of my LGBTQIA+ Family and I have run into members of that family from all over the world. We all share the bond of being different, but it's a difference that has brought us together and strengthened us in ways that I never could have imagined. I am happy to be gay. :old_smile:
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    I would probably choose to be straight if that was a choice because the state I live in isn't lgbtq+ friendly, but I have accepted myself being trans and gay so there is no going back for me I am happy to be the real me being fake wasn't for me it hurt me emotionally I can't go back to the way I was before I was so miserable, I just wish the state I lived in wasn't so stuck in it's lgbtq+ phobic ways, It feels like I will never be able to be my true self.
     
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    That is such an interesting question. I personally find it almost impossible to answer.
    Sexual orientation aside, I am much more preoccupied with my gender identity.
     
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    I'm happy being omnisexual, which is what I am right now. Sometimes I tell people I'm bisexual, because not everyone has heard of omni before. I don't mind calling myself bi, but I just feel omni is more accurate.
     
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    I'm probably bisexual, but not completely sure (I might be a lesbian instead). If I could choose my sexuality, I would choose to be bisexual: not only because of the bigger dating pool, but mainly because it sounds beautiful to me to be able to love people of different genders/regardless of gender.
     
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    I was married to a woman and did a horrible job at satisfying her in the bedroom. Luckily she has a straight boyfriend now and is much happier. As for what I would pick I think it would choose 100% gay too. I enjoy being a little girly and love the feeling of being held by a man. Since dating men I have been much happier too. I see my straight friends and think they are missing out. The right guy can make you feel amazing and the dream of having a husband is something I would never want to lose. Plus I love hanging out with women and being gay lets me have these friendships without them guarding their emotions or speech around me. Girls are very funny when they get together without “men” around.
     
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    Before I accepted my sexuality, I would've chosen straight. It's the least problematic and universally accepted. It's the way I was brought up. Now, while technically I'm bisexual, I self-identify as gay due to my attraction to men being much stronger so this is what I would choose. I would choose to be gay. I pretty much already have. I spent years ashamed of the guilt, hating who I was and fearing I could've been gay so when I finally accepted after much soul-searching, it felt so right.
     
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    It makes me happy to hear you are at this place now. Men can be extremely attractive. It is only natural that you would want to be with them. Being gay can lead to enjoying many fun things. I’m glad you would choose it and that you are in fact gay. Being gay for me feels so right too. I hope you meet a man in 2022 that makes forget all about the conflict you had over being who you are.
     
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    Straight.
     
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    I wish I could just be asexual sometimes.
     
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    I would choose exactly who I am now , Bisexual and happy being just me
     
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    I would choose be an Asexual..
     
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    Given the pressures of society, I would probably default to heterosexuality for personal convenience. I believe most of us, myself included, masqueraded as that for quite some time anyway to avoid any negative contact from our less-than-enlightened peers and authority figures. For me, it wasn't terrible.

    With that said, I love being what I am. I know gender has many expressions and find quite a few of them very attractive. Not all, and just because you're along that part of the gender spectrum, it doesn't mean I'm automatically interested. But I'm not ashamed of my orientation in the least.

    I'm ashamed of the society that tells me my loves and desires are inferior based on the preferences and prejudices of others. Because sadly, without that, a question like this would be impossible to properly answer.
     
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    Still struggling, so straight.
     
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    I'm pretty much mostly gay, so I know those feelings better. I'd pick 100% gay, because it'd be less confusing for me.
     
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    i would say....
    lesbian
     
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    honesty..lesbian...cuz- women <3