I wish I could come out irl to my workplace so that I'm not constantly misgendered and called she/hers/her all the damn frickin' time. But the problem is...I'm afraid of losing my job or being ostracized by my coworkers if I do come out. Although my job's policy is to not discriminate based on m/f status, veteran status, religion, it doesn't really mention sexual orientation or gender identity outside of m/f. And I got a hunch that they only mean cis-male and cis-female and does not include trans-people. That, and...any one of my coworkers could be trans- or homophobic, yet it's not like they have a mark on their foreheads like a warning sign. I hate being misgendered and I hate being taken for straight but what else can I do? I can't afford to lose this job or to work in an uncomfortable social setting, yet everytime I'm misgendered, I end up getting angry at myself for it.
People don't really need to know your sexuality/love life to do your job, I presume. But if the topic of relationships does come up, just say "partner" and other gender neutral language to imply to them you like more than the opposite gender. Just tell yourself you just need to get through the day, get your work done and keep secure/safe.
Imagine you're an actor, that you're inside a play or a film. Or that you drank a magic potion to do a secret mission as another gender. It sounds very stupid, but it helped me to detach and feel less dysphoria. Transform it in a game.
Oh, sorry, maybe I wasn't clear. I do agree they don't need to know my sexuality and whatnot, but the problem is, I have a problem with being misgendered such as they use the wrong pronouns when addressing or talking about me. In hindsight, it seems like a small problem and it is but it's just a little annoyance to face everyday lol. But you're right: I'm usually too busy and/or too tired to dwell on little things like that in work lol
LOL I'll just pretend I drank that magical potion in the Harry Potter series that completely turns you into someone/something else lol Thanks!
