I went to a gay bathhouse last night, never again!

I disagree somewhat with all. I've been to several bath houses and enjoyed my times. Yes, the amount of unprotected anal sex disturbes me very much and I am very cautious in those places. BUT, I find lots of hard cocks brushing up against you exciting and erotic. Yes in the 'playroom', anonymous guys will reach out to touch you but that's what we are there for! They will offer to suck you also. I've never experienced someone who came on strong or forced himself on me whenever I gave the message that I didn't want to be touched -- everyone is polite and sensitive to your desires. I don't exchange bodily fluids and wear flip-flops and have an erotic time!

 

Thank you for reaffirming my decision to never go to one. Sounds like a dungeon of sexually repressed old men, and a breeding ground for STDs. Sleazy is the perfect word to describe it.

 

Yeah, it is something that seems to come with the territory. I've never been to a gay bathhouse. And after reading this thread, I'm even less inclined to. But right now, I go to a gay bar and there is a 60-some year old man there that sometimes likes to tell him he'd like to get me drunk and see my penis. Just one of the liberties that older guys take with younger guys that I'll never get used to.

 

Well you went to a gay bath house -- did you expect to see an intellectual discussion of the pro's and con's of gay power or the rainbow coalition??

Listen I'm str8 MWM but I am 'bi-curious'. I've gone a number of times to such a gay bath house. I go primarily to 'voyeur' ..........I get turned on by watching others engaged in all kinds of public sex. Sometimes I let one of the trolls jerk me off or even suck me off (immediately wash my dick after that).

I've found that if you can meet a fellow safe str8 married guy who is also bi-curious ahead of time and get to know one another, you can go in with him and both of us watch the goings on together, get turned on, then we can engage in sex exclusively with each other in public or private ........................it's really an erotic thing for me.

I would never exchange bodily fluids with any of the promiscuous anonymous guys in such a place. Sadly it's true --- they are risky and do not use condoms in anal sex .........ok to watch but don't join in.

 

HAHAHAHA! That is the impression I get from Florida...

Anyways, your brave! I would never have the guts to try something like that, esp alone

 

I used to go to them frequently because I found the atmosphere to be intriguing. Something adventurous about it. Im in my 40s and mostly into guys in their 20s.Im nothing great but Im considered nice looking for my age, a bit of a bear, very masculine behaving. Most of the crowd is older, but not all older ones are looking for younger guys, although obviously a young attractive guy will draw attention. Plenty of older guys grope me but I just politely whisper "no thanks" and they leave me alone. When I was more of a regular I met a lot of cute younger Hispanic guys (I'm in Texas) and some Asian guys who were exclusively attracted to my type and they found the bathhouse a good place to contact people. Most of the Hispanic guys were out and most of the Asian guys were closeted students or healthcare professionals. You can catch an STD anywhere. The issue is behaving safely and sanely whether you are in a bathhouse or a 5 star hotel. I will go back for sure.

 

Don't regret it--you should try everything at least once. Now you know how awful those places are, so you won't do it again, but you also have a story to tell! If you hadn't gone, you'd still be wondering what they're like.

 

This is nasty.

 

I went to a bathhouse in Sydney and I find it really disturbing as well, I am not sure people have protection while having sex but there's condoms in every room, so I assume people do use it. My experience is that I draw attention as well, there's people everywhere, grabbing my bum or try to brush against my skin, I feel so violated. I was turning away from the crowd, I was too freaked out. And the crowd are mainly unattractive, old, wrinkled guys as well and I locked myself in a room just to avoid all those people.

One of the funniest thing is that I walked into a blowjob booth and I didn't know it until someone reach out and grab my cock, I freaked out and ran out from the booth.

 

wow, the thread's last post (aside today) was from AUGUST haha.

curious, what's with closeted older guys and trying to get with younger guys?
getting back with youth? chasing time?

makes me wonder what kind of emotional problem LGBT being suppressed has caused lol.

 

I have known several friends who talked good about them. This was back in the early 90's when I was in my early 20's. Durring that time I had a husband so I never went. I heard Jacksonville has one and was recomended to go. After hearing this it sounds like NO to me. Thank you for the warning. I am a one man kind of woman.

 

Hmm. I'm still curious. Buddy system for safety!

 

I've thought about going to a bath house or adult cinema. Glad I didn't now.

 

Never been to one, is there one for the women as well?

 

There is one that I go to in LA on Melrose Avenue. There's a lot old guys there but I walk away before they ask me my name. I'm 25 years old and I'm so not interested in dudes who need a pill or pump to get going. The Melrose Spa supplies condoms and their rules say "No Barebacking, No drugs and disclose your HIV Status" but the (not all) of the patrons disobey them.

 

Just grabbed your genitals? Not good.

 

I was pretty much always put off by the idea when I heard what it was. You just never know who's gonna be in there expecting some very different things to you. I don't think I'd ever visit one of them.

 

been a few times with friends the one I went to had themed evenings like for different ages I attended the under 25 only evenings . It was modern look`s clean Had a small gym & I mean small .The place had a few pools one was a little darker stayed away from that I did go in the pool that had good lighting you could see who was in with you a few people were naked and a few times I have seen someone get a handjob in the pool in the times I have gone its been quite a relaxed environment & weekends I guess its a free 4 all been told it can get a bit rowdy the place also has set rules if you dont follow them your kicked out . am not saying places like this are ideal but it`s not as seedy as people make it out to be .

 

So the porn video of the bathhouse is pretty much fantasy? I figured as much. My friend gave me a DVD of two older guys showing a guy in his late teens a good time in a bathhouse.