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I totally got "Spacied" today, WTF?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Jackie Ray, Dec 5, 2017.

  1. Jackie Ray

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    So I was cutting hair today and when the customer got up to pay me, I was cleaning my tools and he slipped the tip in my back pocket. But he copped a feel of my butt too and smiled at me, I admit that I enjoyed the male attention after being in hiding for so long. On the other hand I felt a little violated, and angry that he took that liberty. I couldnt say anything because Im still in closet here, until I go back home, and if a straight man gets his ass touched then he is expected to fight or shut up and take it. I'm confused, flattered, and a little pissed. What do you guys think?, this is just so weird.
     
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    Not cool. Doesn't matter who, where, when, or why, nobody should touch anyone that way if it's not deliberately asked for. Pretty hardline stance, I know, but there's a time and place for everything, and while on the clock is not one of them.
     
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    If he's cute then I wouldn't mind.
     
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    He wasnt my type, he was a butch bull.
     
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    Oh yuck. Yeah I think everything your feeling is pretty normal.
     
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    Im just afraid of butch masc types, I know everyone is in love with Jason Momoa, but he scare the fuck out of me, he looks so rapey.
     
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    Hmm I don't think he looks rapey, although he could probably rape many people if he wanted to. If they touch you just slightly push there hand away.
     
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    I just have a phobia of big jocks
     
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    Yeah. Well then just date guys smaller than you.
     
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    I would've been pissed if someone I didn't know did that to me. Touching a total stranger like that is never ok under any circumstances.
     
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    I dont date, Im undatable.
     
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    Ive got a fit behind so its tough to resist, it felt odd to me.
     
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    Lol.

    The way I see it if I see a guy with a nice ass and I don't know him, it's okay to look but not touch. I think the reasoning behind my stance is that I had issues with people touching me for a long time, so I take personal space seriously.
     
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    This is the first time its happened in a normal setting, Ive have drunk jocks aggressively grope me in clubs or bars and it was unwanted but expected especially when youre a little guy like me. I was just brushing hair off of my clippers, then HELLO!.
     
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    Next time punch him out!
     
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    I dont fight, come on you know this.
     
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    I'm sorry, but I think men take a lot of unnecessary crap since they're socialized to take any sexual interest :/
     
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    A lifted eyebrow, and a firm "Not okay", said while holding their gaze will resolve this issue for you.

    That said, he might not be back if you call him on his bad behavior.
     
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    Gosh, I wish I would have thought of that, I never think of cool stuff to say, I'd be bad at action movies.
     
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    I'm not sure if it's "cool" but I'm big on boundaries, yeah? When someone oversteps, I've always needed ways to inform them of that without it coming off as overly aggressive. Maybe it just took a bit of practice, and the right temperament needed to actually say something in the first place. A lot of people just won't/wouldn't.