1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

I think I'm turning a corner?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by RJay, Aug 29, 2017.

  1. NeonSocks

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jun 17, 2017
    Messages:
    412
    Likes Received:
    744
    Location:
    Midwest
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Ohh, I forgot about Bodywork! Yes, that one would have also been very appropriate. :slight_smile: Can we just have an EC field trip to a T&S concert and then all go to a gay bar afterwards?
     
  2. Cinnamon Bunny

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 23, 2016
    Messages:
    423
    Likes Received:
    290
    Location:
    South USA
    Gender:
    Genderqueer
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    I'm glad you're out and about with gay women who can return your feelings and realized how unfulfilling it is to go after straight girls. I see something in your writing though and feel concerned. I hope you don't get caught up in what others want and forget to listen to your own heart and mind. Give yourself time to process things out for yourself.
     
    OED27x and junebug99 like this.
  3. RJay

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Feb 10, 2017
    Messages:
    932
    Likes Received:
    1,361
    Location:
    USA
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Some people
    Curious what you mean... Please elaborate! :slight_smile:
     
  4. Cinnamon Bunny

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 23, 2016
    Messages:
    423
    Likes Received:
    290
    Location:
    South USA
    Gender:
    Genderqueer
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    You don't sound that excited to me, you sound more like a deer in headlights. Maybe I'm wrong and totally off base.
     
    RJay likes this.
  5. Rana

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Apr 14, 2017
    Messages:
    449
    Likes Received:
    419
    Location:
    USA
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Ahhhh!! OMG!! How did I miss this?!
    I'm late to RJay's makeout party.
    Holy crap! This is big news!!
    RJay, see, nothing to it!
    I'm so happy for you regardless of whether this thing with J goes anywhere or is just fun.
    Oh man, we have a new initial, J.
    Pretty soon RJay will have the alphabet lined up, lol.
    Yassss, girl! :fingers_crossed::heart_eyes: :tada: :gay_pride_flag:
     
  6. RJay

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Feb 10, 2017
    Messages:
    932
    Likes Received:
    1,361
    Location:
    USA
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Some people
    O.M.G. Hahahaha!
     
    OED27x, beenthrdonetht and Rana like this.
  7. RJay

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Feb 10, 2017
    Messages:
    932
    Likes Received:
    1,361
    Location:
    USA
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Some people
    That is fair enough! I am hung over, exhausted, and honestly SHOCKED at my behavior.

    We've texted a lot today, and processed what happened. Jesus, lesbians really communicate. LOL.

    Anyway, she's shocked at her behavior too, but we decided to go on a proper date next Saturday to see how it goes.
     
  8. silverhalo

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Dec 22, 2008
    Messages:
    10,031
    Likes Received:
    3,156
    Location:
    England,
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Yay for a proper first date Rjay I'm so happy for you.
     
    Soundofmusic and junebug99 like this.
  9. zumbaqueen

    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 11, 2017
    Messages:
    305
    Likes Received:
    357
    Location:
    New York
    Can't wait to hear all about it!
     
    RJay and junebug99 like this.
  10. junebug99

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Aug 12, 2017
    Messages:
    437
    Likes Received:
    557
    Location:
    Ontario, Canada
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Sounds like you had some real chemistry with J. Hope your date goes well.
     
    RJay likes this.
  11. beenthrdonetht

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Oct 13, 2016
    Messages:
    1,315
    Likes Received:
    482
    Location:
    California
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Next Saturday? That's eons away. What are the rest of us going to do? Listen RJay, you have to have another affair before then. We'll go crazy!
     
    NeonSocks, Rana and RJay like this.
  12. Rana

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Apr 14, 2017
    Messages:
    449
    Likes Received:
    419
    Location:
    USA
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    A few people
    RJay,
    Have you had a chance to tell V about J? Just curious how V will react.
     
    idsm likes this.
  13. leb10

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Jun 5, 2017
    Messages:
    223
    Likes Received:
    364
    Location:
    United States
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Good for you guys! Are you feeling nervous or overwhelmed about the date? I think it'll be so good to get that first one down and it should be helpful that you already sort of know each other? Are you keeping the dating app coffee date too? Coffee is actually earlier in the week, right?
     
    RJay likes this.
  14. Rana

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Apr 14, 2017
    Messages:
    449
    Likes Received:
    419
    Location:
    USA
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Thanks Lego, your words are comforting. My parents are Middle Eastern, and that part of the world is still very homophobic (homophobia is an understatement for them). Same sex attraction is looked at like some sort of disease or mental disorder. They're in the stone ages when it comes to tolerance. Things might change with the younger generations but it's still really bad in terms of how we are judged and labeled.
    I really do want to be honest with my parents even though I know my private life is my own. I feel like I need to be emotionally ready to do that. I'm still dealing with things within myself but I hope to be completely out some day, and to deal with the fallout and face the music so to speak.
     
    RJay and leb10 like this.
  15. Leela80

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Aug 3, 2017
    Messages:
    75
    Likes Received:
    83
    Location:
    Idaho
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Go Rjay! I hope you don't mind but some of us have to live vicarious through you.
     
    RJay and IrishEyes like this.
  16. Orchidea123

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Aug 22, 2015
    Messages:
    481
    Likes Received:
    151
    Location:
    US
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Questioning
    Out Status:
    Not out at all
    You are brave and did so well! So glad you enjoyed the outing.
    I really like the 'proper date' idea - that sounds even more exciting:smiley:
     
    dreamingfreely and RJay like this.
  17. Cinnamon Bunny

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 23, 2016
    Messages:
    423
    Likes Received:
    290
    Location:
    South USA
    Gender:
    Genderqueer
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    A few people
    Sorry, guess I was picking up on the exhaustion and etc. I can see how that would effect your response. I'm really tired myself too, though for other reason. I hope you get some good rest!

    Yeah, most women don't lack in the communication department. Gotta love that :grin:

    Glad you took the time to process things out and decided on a proper date :slight_smile: I hope all goes well ♡
     
    #997 Cinnamon Bunny, Sep 16, 2017
    Last edited: Sep 16, 2017
    RJay likes this.
  18. Moonsparkle

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jan 5, 2017
    Messages:
    516
    Likes Received:
    681
    Location:
    Northeast US
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Some people
    I'm up for this field trip! And then maybe we can crash the party and meet up with RJay and J on their date :wink:
     
  19. RJay

    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Feb 10, 2017
    Messages:
    932
    Likes Received:
    1,361
    Location:
    USA
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Some people
    I think I'm bailing out on the app person. It's too much!

    I'm not nervous at all about the date with J. "Sort of know each other" haha. I feel like we know each other pretty well! :laughing:

    It was fun to text with her yesterday. She is very "impressed" with me and my "abilities". Omg. Who am I? Lol.
     
  20. Moonsparkle

    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jan 5, 2017
    Messages:
    516
    Likes Received:
    681
    Location:
    Northeast US
    Gender:
    Female
    Gender Pronoun:
    She
    Sexual Orientation:
    Lesbian
    Out Status:
    Some people
    My question is, and I hope I didn't miss this somewhere in the thread, but did you tell V about J?

    Second question is, where are you and J going on the date any ideas yet?
     
    idsm likes this.