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I think I'm turning a corner?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by RJay, Aug 29, 2017.

  1. Soundofmusic

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    I, too, give permission for this line to be used in your memoir. LOL

    Glad you set a date for wine night!! If I were you, id bring up that you're gay right off the bat. If she's into women too, it's likely she'll say something.


    And when V comes back, be strong RJay! Was it you I shared the slot machine theory with? If so, then remember not to feed the slot machine. (holler if you have no idea what I'm talking about, so I can explain HA)
     
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    if you do have a shit gaydar, then join the club!
     
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    It is possible to meet someone wonderful on a dating app. Just sayin' :grin:
     
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    The slot machine theory is so helpful on so many different levels. I agree, don't feed the slot machine!
     
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    What is the slot machine theory again? I'm curious...

    I think we are all going to be disappointed if L is straight. Sounds promising... I think she sounds more likely to be some kinda LGBT than V. And you have to love assertive women :wink:
     
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    I'm curious about the slot machine theory too, I must have missed it.
     
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    Oh definitely more likely to be bisexual or something than V. No doubt about that. V is STRAIGHT. Still, one can't be sure until it is discussed. L just has a "vibe" and there are all her pastimes and the limited history I know about. All suggests "not entirely straight" is a possibility.
     
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    I think the fact that you are pretty sure you look gay now and she is actively pursuing alone time and alcohol is encouraging.

    If I were you I would either bring up some LGBT topic, pride etc and see how she reacts. Or mention a female celebrity you think is hot.

    As she seems pretty forthright hopefully you won't have to wait long to find out!
     
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    The whole hand holding thing with someone you just met wouldn't be normal girl behavior to me but I don't think I am a normal girl.
     
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    She held the hand that was holding the cigarette lighter. Like to steady it. It didn't seem that odd, but it is a move I recognize from old movies when the guy is lighting the girl's cigarette. Haha. I have an imagination.
     
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    Hey :slight_smile: just another fan here. :slight_smile:

    Btw why did she hold your hand? Were you shaking?

    Me and my friends used to cover each other's hand if there's wind or breeze. I could imagine my best friends or close friends doing that, but not a new found friend.

    Hope everything goes smoothly with L. :grin:
     
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    LMAO at all the analysis. No wind. Hand not shaking, she just took my lighter hand in her hand as she lit up. :wink: I could have handed her the lighter, but I wanted to light it myself. I'm such a guy.
     
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    Exactly like this (except I'm a woman, of course, haha):
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    Oh, thank you! :blush:
    I am a little bummed, though, that after re-reading my posts I find embarrassing grammatical mistakes (which, for some reason, I cannot edit anymore)...


    And I'll drop the bomb. As cool as L sounds, I really wish things will work out with V. I don't even know why. Perhaps because she was the first? Or maybe because I feel that L will find her way just fine? I don't know. They both sound tempting. And V was just starting warming up a little bit? Why did L have to show up now? Couldn't she have waited until the situation with V was more clear? Sigh...

    If all of this is so frustrating for me, I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through, Rjay. Hugs.
     
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    Right. You might get all loopy again. But I'll be around with my HIGH MAINTENANCE sirens and megaphones for reminders! One things for sure though.. this is about to get interesting...as soon as V realizes there's a new hottie on the block that you're hangin' with!

    What if she asks if she can get together with you two for a wine night too? Oh MY...this story COULD go in a lot of different directions!

    Bottom line: I'm sure that V is a fine and attractive woman...but...

    You have this little black dress wearing, bad ass race car driver at your fingertips! She's a dream. Please have her set me up with one of her equally badass street hockey teammates!

    PS: This thread totally cracks me up. We all think the same way and notice the same things. I had the immediate thought Hushhh mentioned about the cigarette lighting. 'BUT WHY????? WAS IT WINDY???? IT'S NOT THE WINDY TIME OF YEAR! :thinking:'
     
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    Rjay- thanks for posting a picture as I do not smoke. My husband does and I have never seen him or anyone else that I know who smokes do that. I have seen them cover for wind. The holding of the hand seems initiate to me and maybe flirty.
     
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    oh nice pic lol. And sorry for the unsolicited analysis.
    Anyway, not to encourage you more, it's more of a personal view. I am touch sensitive, so it makes me uncomfortable if men or women become touchy, except with close friends, we do grope each other(not all lol), but it might be different with other people.

    I have a friend who gets very friendly to everyone. She hugs, passes food, lights their cigarette too, pour them drinks, she's very accommodating to any new face and instantly clicks with them. Or maybe I just recall her drunk moments. Haha
     
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    I agree with all the others, Rjay - rooting for you to find the right match, regardless of who that turns out to be, and that might take awhile. But as long as you're open to love, I have no doubt you find that right person.
     
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    Good move like it just joined your story fascinating
     
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