I think I've mentioned it on here before, but my wife and I don't really see eye to eye on gender identity. It's one of the reasons I'm not out to her yet. Her views tend to be very conservative and very definite. I mean, she wonders why as a minister I even talk to LGBTQ people. I have been waiting and watching over the last few months. I'm hoping, I guess, that she'll come around to a somewhat more accepting position, you know? I've been trying different things to express who I am in hopes that she'll get more comfortable with it before we ever have that conversation. (The other side of that being that I'm not ready to face the potential fallout of that just yet.) And I thought we were getting somewhere. Full-on purple hair didn't get much of a reaction at all, and she used to be furiously opposed to me even getting highlights. Anyways, last week she sent me this video which basically argued that there is no scientific basis for being trans and that it's all the parents fault for trying to be politically correct. I watched some of it, and it was very biased, very transphobic, and really pissed me off. As she put it, she knows "I represent those gays" and so she wanted to get my take on it. We talked for over an hour. She argued that kids can't know their gender identity, which means any child feeling that way is just a result of the parents transferring their own beliefs to their kids (with negative results). Any "gay" person she's ever met (her cousin is trans ftm and got included in that, too) just has a mental issue and if you go back far enough in their life story you'll find something like abuse and that's why they are how they are. I tried to argue otherwise but it didn't really go anywhere. If we had a child who came out as gay she'd love them right up until they turned 18 and then they'd be on their own. She doesn't even want to have kids for fear of them deciding they might be gay, especially now that I've "brought that into the house" by reaching out as a minister to the LGBTQ community. I have no idea how to deal with that, you know? That was, what, 4 days ago now and I'm still trying to process it. She still thinks the only reason that I'm talking to LGBTQ people as a minister is because I'm secretly gay and she's just waiting for that to come out. She asked me openly if I thought I was a girl and I said no. I'm just not ready to go there yet.