I came out to my mom today. I told her I was trans, and she supports and accepts me, but apparently my dad isn't a big supporter of lgbtq stuff, and I didn't know this before. Now my mom is making me tell him by Friday, and my mom is making me go to a family therapist so she can figure out how to best help me. She also doesn't believe I'm trans. Idk what to do! It's a nightmare!
No, not at all. I'm completely fine with the therapist btw, but what's bothering me about it is that I have to see the therapist with my parents as well. I feel like that defeats the purpose of a therapist. I really want to see the therapist too, but they kinda ruined it for me. It's been a day, and my mom is coming out of shock, and she's doing a bit better, and now i don't have to tell my dad until Sunday, after I go to an lgbtq support group, but I still have to tell him! I'm so emotionally spent, all of my courage was used to tell my mom, I just don't know what to do. I have cried far too much recently, and I can't even cry anymore!
Do you have family dinners? Idk. Maybe you should tell him during his vacation time so he can process it better.
maybe the first session or two with family is good, I'm sure she just wants to be on the same page. after a few sessions ask your mom if you can maybe try some on your own and explain the benefits. Maybe your mom knows the therapist might give a better understanding to her and your dad. Just tell your dad the same way you told your mom. However he feels about it does not reflect who you are as a person. Facing your parents with any type of news that you feel they might look down upon is very frightening. Be brave