hey guys. So...I recently figured out I’m bisexual. I don’t really feel a need to come out to every one of my friends, or my family yet (though I know they would support me) but I just want to share this with someone. I want to come out to my best friend, who has always supported me in everything I do and is also very accepting of the LGBTQ+ community. I know she will be kind and accepting, but for some reason I’m just so scared. I just need some advice on how to come out, and maybe a little pep talk or something?? Idk. I’m just so nervous!! Thanks
Oh compared to autocorrect fails, that's nothing. I didn't even notice. (Kinda like that "Paris in the the spring" thing.) But about coming out: it does sound like you are in a pretty secure place. This is good. Do you worry that your friend might think you are crushing on her? Are you? Whether or not, the first question is just "to out or not to out". I think you are correct in saying you just need a pep talk. Consider this one. You don't sound obsessed, tied in knots, roller-coastering, back-and-forthing. (Maybe a good reflection of how our culture is making things easier... not soon enough, of course!) It will generally be easier to start with a friend and then move on to family, so you are thinking about this the right way. I suggest writing down a little spiel... but just to get your thoughts in order. Then say it out loud. It is soo hard to find a "smooth intro" to the topic, so just resign yourself to the idea that you will break the ice yourself. OK, ready, set, GO!
Being nervous is totally natural. There is of course no rush but as long as you feel that you want to, and it sounds like you do then go for it. For me if I wanted to tell someone sometimes I used to message them before I met up with them and tell them I had something I wanted to talk about. That was they were expecting something and it meant that when we met up they also gave me a nudge to say it.
