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i have no idea on my gender

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Haruto, Apr 26, 2022.

  1. Haruto

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    so some days i feel masculine and am male, and then other days i feel like they them fits me. I've never felt female. I don't know if im genderfluid or not but my pronouns are everything but she her.
     
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    also i sometimes feel like male and agender at the same time like a weird he/they jumble
     
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    Haruto.....I've never experienced what you are talking about, but I've seen posts here on EC about it a number of times. I think that there will be folks on this forum who will respond to your post even though they haven't done so yet. One thing that does come to mind is that in the other posts that I've seen about this kind of gender movement along the spectrum, is that it does tend to settle down and become more stable. It takes some time, but in all of the cases that I can remember, that has happened. You're young enough that you have plenty of time for this to stabilize and I think that it will! :old_smile:
    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    Interesting.

    I have had occasional periods in the past where I felt more feminine, maybe even as if I was, or wanted to be, a woman. They were sporadic and never really lasted very long and I never felt like I wanted to change my outer expression or appearance to be more feminine.

    It was always very sporadic and it hasn't happened for a long time, definitely not since I became more aware of being bi.

    I suspect now it may have been part of expressing that, because when I think about the possibility of having sex with another man I generally see myself in the receiving/bottoming role (but still presenting as a man, not as if I were a woman).

    I think a lot of this stuff can be fluid and shift around some, as Quebec said. If it's not causing any stress I'd say just go with the flow and feel it out.
     
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    I've also had moments where I was more feminine, but again, I tried female pronouns on myself and it felt wrong. I kind of feel like my gender is tbd. I'll use bigender as my current identity then. I feel masculine and androgynous, sometimes in shifts, sometimes together. I say that works best for me.
     
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    That makes sense and if that works for you it's the right option!

    I also never really felt like female pronouns were appropriate for me, which reinforces my earlier conclusion, I think.
     
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    wait I just realized now im bisexual and bigender they match
     
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    So I feel that my gender's already started to calm down, so I've settled on "effeminate man" for now.
     
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