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i have a huge crush on my friend and idk what to do

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by justlikeheaven, Apr 13, 2023.

  1. justlikeheaven

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    the first time i saw her was on my first week of school (i moved schools earlier this year) she isnt really my usual type, she has short hair and looks pretty masc but i think she looks great the way she does.
    the first time i actually met her was a couple weeks later when i was skipping class with my friend, we were on the roof and we hung out with her. we started to hang out more, mostly with our two friends on the roof at lunch and recess and my crush on her started to grow more and more but i know not to get my hopes up because one of our friends told me that he liked the new girl in our class (theres a new girl thats only been in our school for a couple of weeks) but that he promised that he would stay away cause she also liked her. im just so confused and i have no idea what to do with my feelings.
     
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    Hello, @justlikeheaven. It can be really difficult navigating these feelings at the best of times, but it's especially hard when you're still young (and not straight).

    I think, regardless of your crush having a crush on someone else, it wouldn't be a deal-breaker to open up to her more; maybe build up to telling her how you feel about her. But if you're not ready to do that just yet (or ever) you can always try to gauge whether those feelings are mutual. When you hang out with your crush, how does she act around you? Is it different from how she interacts with others?

    It can be scary to put yourself out there, so just take your time to sort out how you feel now, and how you'd feel whether your crush likes you in the same way or not. Sometimes, our feelings just have to run their course.
     
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    "Some lights cast more than one shadow. Stand before the nightfire and you'll see for yourself. The flames shift and dance, never still. The shadows grow tall and short, and every man casts a dozen. Some are fainter than others, that's all. Well, men cast their shadows across the future as well. One shadow, or many."
    -Stannis Baratheon, "A Clash of Kings"-


    This quote from ‘BiGemini87’ is so powerful! Stay with your truth and follow your dreams & your beliefs and you will end up where you belong. Patience…
     
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    justlikeheaven.....Hello and a great big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! :old_smile: I can remember the first post that I made on EC. I was desperate for help and I got the help that night that I so needed. I hope that we can help you in the same way that I received help. The most important thing to remember about Empty Closets is that we do care about you! We're very glad that you found us here on EC and hope that we can answer questions, give you support and provide a place to vent (as long as it's not violent!) :old_big_grin: when that becomes necessary!

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    I get how hard this must be. I also have a crush on my friend and I have no idea if she likes me. She’s bi but I’m too nervous to tell her that I like her even though she knows I like girls. I know it’s easier said than done, and I should prob take my own advice, but I think you should tell this girl about your feelings. The worst that could happen is she’d say she’s not interested but she might like you back! It definitely doesn’t hurt to ask as long as you’re respectful imho.
     
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