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I feel like I'll never get anywhere in life

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by Andrew99, Jan 14, 2018 at 1:02 AM.

  1. Andrew99

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    I want to be successful. I don't want to be a loser or a freeloader. Last semester in college I didn't pass any classes. I started an online course this past week but fell too far behind and got dropped. I don't know what I want to be anymore. I also don't think I'll ever find the right guy. Like sometimes I feel like my expectations are too high but I'll never be happy settling for less.
     
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    Hey man,
    Do you want to be successful just for the sake of being successful or is your area of study something that you're passionate about? It's great that you want to succeed, but if it isn't doing something you love, you're trying for the wrong reasons. Sometimes it can take a little time to find something we're passionate about, but it's so worth it. :-D

    As for finding a boyfriend, your expectations are too high, indeed. Mr Perfect is a fantasy that doesn't exist. Searching for the perfect boyfriend will only lead you to push away imperfect, real humans that could actually make you very happy. It is ok to have high standards. Perhaps make a list of the flaws you really can't live with, as well as the fundamental qualities that the other person must possess to make you feel safe and loved. Then make a list of your major life goals, and ask yourself whether potential partners are compatible with this. I would be careful not to have criteria like "must be at least 6' tall and be a big video game fan." As for your physical "type", life can surprise you with whom you are attracted to if you get to know them. As for shared interests, be flexible. As long as the other person respects and supports you in your interests, they will still be a very safe and supportive partner for you, and may even open your eyes to other interests that you didn't know before.

    Enjoy the rest of your weekend :slight_smile:
     
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    You're 18. Take a deep breath. You've got plenty of time. I'm 30 and still trying to narrow down exactly what i want to be when I grow up.

    Once you do that, I might suggest meeting with a career counselor. They can help you figure out what jobs you might be good at and what the right path is to get there (school? Apprentice programs?)