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I dont no who i am

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Tiny22, Nov 7, 2021.

  1. Tiny22

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    Hi all 31 years old confused about my hole life need to figure out who i am but scared to ask myself the quetions new here excuse spelling
     
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    Hi! Tell us more about why are you confused? :slight_smile: And don't worry about spelling mistakes too much.
     
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    I dont no who i am anymore what i feel my identity am i me the shame of the things i enjoy but wont do its horrible
     
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    Hi @Tiny22

    EC is a friendly and non-judgemental forum, so feel free to share as much as you’re comfortable sharing. Most of us have been in a similar situation and understand how frightening questioning can be. Posting here is a great first step!
     
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    Thanks just a big thing to me you no
     
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    I think almost everyone feels like that when they first start questioning. For me, I was in a long term heterosexual relationship, with a child, when I first started questioning, so it was a huge thing for me too.

    Everybody has a slightly different situation, but there will be lots of people here who can relate and understand, even if their situation is not exactly the same.
     
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    So Tiny what's on your mind?
     
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    You have no need to feel scared, ask yourself that question that's on your mind and see where you go. We're all friendly here so if you need a chat or just someone to rant to then we're here :slight_smile:
     
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    If i want to dress and be femanine does that make me trans do i look at other men and think there attractive i dont no as i have never done this so i dress in female clothing and does it feel right yes but is it me
     
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    How you dress and express yourself does not make you trans. There are plenty of men (straight, gay, and in between) who simply like to dress in clothes normally worn by women.

    If you're concerned about whether or not you're trans, a more important question is how you feel in your body. Do you feel like having a male body is consistent with who you are? The primary defining characteristic of being trans is a strong sense of dysmorphia... as though you were born into the wrong body, so you don't feel like you belong in the body you inhabit. If you are pretty comfortable in your body (meaning, you don't hate the male characteristics of your body) then it isn't likely you're trans.
     
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    Yeah. I started questioning my whole existence, when I turned 30
    Like it was said, before. The type of clothes you like to wear don't determine if you are trans or not. Also not all trans experience dysphoria or dysmorphia. You just have to feel it in your soul, if it's the real you and deeply think about it.
    Maybe you hate your body parts (hair, breasts and so on)?
    Maybe you feel as if you are in the wrong body? Maybe you feel uncomfortable in it?
    Can you imagine yourself as an female and how does it make you feel?
    We can't tell you if you are one or not, that you have to figure out on your own, but these are some of the questions you can ask yourself.
     
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    This is coming from a freshman in high school so take this with a grain of salt, but for what it's worth, I don't think anyone really knows whats going on. We just gotta live while we can and have fun doing it.
     
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