I can’t speak for everyone, but I sure as hell don’t want to be trans! There are all sorts of I mean, I’m trans but would prefer not to be. My entire life up until very recently has been pretty much exclusively about not being trans. Eventually I just kind of accepted that cis people don’t devote huge amounts of time, energy, and attention to remaining cis. They just exist. Lucky. You are who you are. I told my wife today that the person I’m trying to set free is the best of me, it’s the person she married. I think she understood.