I prefer not to encounter her. Our paths initially crossed through mutual acquaintances, and we frequented the same venue. We shared a genuine liking for each other and engaged in meaningful conversations. However, our connection abruptly ended when I found it necessary to sever ties with those individuals. During a challenging personal period, I refrained from flirting and distanced myself from these connections. Although I communicated my reasons to her and provided my contact information as a courtesy, she was understandably upset by the sudden change, she believed that I was playing with her and was interested in another woman. Several months have passed since then, and now I find myself with an appointment scheduled at the familiar location and time adjacent to where we used to spend time together. I anticipate a potential encounter with her, and I'm not particularly eager for it. Given my preference for solitude during difficult times, I'm uncertain about how to navigate the situation if I run into her.
Hi there! As several months have passed since you have parted ways, I am wondering if you are letting your fears of an encounter that might not happen take over. For all intents and purposes, she might not be there or she could have also changed her routine, similarly to yourself. I understand it might be uncomfortable seeing her or being in close proximity, but you can't really control that. What you can control though is how you react to it or go into it. If by some chance you encounter her, you can either just keep walking or you can say a polite hello while also continuing to walk towards your appointment. There is no requirement or obligation on your part to stop and chat or have a conversation.
If you do happen to come across her again then I would not engage with her in any argument or debate. Just tell her you've already explained your stance before and your answer won't change no matter how many times she inquires. If at all possible try to walk away. You have no obligation to speak to her and you can give the excuse of showing up to your appointment on time and don't really have any time to spare. However the location you speak of is not the same building/location you both went to but one next to it, and you're worried she'll catch you outside near there. I don't see there being a high probability of her spotting you. Plus a lot of time has transpired since then. Just wear a beanie and a scarf to hide your features but you might be overthinking it. It is smart to be prepared but I think you are good.
Me personally, I would try to ignore her, but if you do part paths with her and she tries to talk to you, I would make it short and sweet
Thanks for the advice. I did listen to it and got a winter hat lol. Tomorrow is my appointment. I get its a long shot to see her but needed to mentally prepare. I had some of these acquaintances seeing me and stalking me months ago, they are kinda obsessed. Not her but them.
In that case buy some pepper spray or a pocket knife too for self defense, If you haven't already. Stay safe.
