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I did it! Went to my first gay bar.

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  1. bearhug1994

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    I had a freaking blast! Made a few friends. There was a lot of leather, A lot of drag. Bunch of guys around my age and A lot of older guys. I was surprised at how much I got hit on lol. I was talking to one guy and I told him it was my first time doing anything like this and he said he was surprised at how well I was doing interacting with everyone so I think it went pretty good. They said I picked the most hardcore gay bar in town haha but I felt right at home. Everyone was very welcoming. I kissed one guy right as the bar was closing, just to see what it was like to kiss a guy, kinda weird I ain't gonna lie. I had to go outside and spit and I didn't really feel any attraction to him I think that's why it wasn't to great for me but he leaned in so I went for it. Overall I had a really good time and I've been texting several of the guys I met today. Like 7 of them texted and called last night to make sure I made it back to the hotel haha so yea pretty freaking cool environment. I'll def be back. I'm just not gonna kiss No one else unless I'm attracted to them.
     
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    Oh wow congratulations :clap:!!! I havent done that, hopefully next year. I chuckled though when you said you had to go out and spit haha i hope that guy didnt see you do that lol
     
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    I don't think he did haha. I hope not anyway.
     
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    Nice! It takes guts well done! :grin:
     
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    Thanks , Yea my heart was racing like crazy on the way there!
     
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    Not to hijack a post here, but I've never been to a gay bar before and I've really wanted to see what it's like. Don't even know if there are any around where I am.
     
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    Well if you are sure you're gay I would recommend it! You're experience may be different than mine but I had a lot of fun.
     
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    One of the nicest things that I've experience about gay bars (and individual ones have different strengths and weaknesses, of course), is that in all of the gay bars that I have ever been to, in multiple countries, the people are SO accepting and really feel free to just be 'you.' There are no worries that someone will 'pick a fight' over a homosexual comment, let alone a heterosexual one. Generally speaking, in my experience, at gay bars it's ALL good.
     
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    Did you go by yourself?
     
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    Gj, I gotta admit thou I'm jealous I haven't been to a gay bar yet but a'l be old enough next year
     
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    Yeah but I liked it. If my friends had went I wouldn't have felt so "free" to be me haha I'm not out to them.
     
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    Where I live the city near me leeds theres a area called the viaduct theres a few gay bars. I think I would like to go but with somebody though. lol
     
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    Good thinking lol i'm not a bar type of person and havent been to one here in california but from being here to much in E.C. i wanted to go try a gay bar but i'm super shy so to get my feet wet, i asked my friends to go to a tourist bar 2 weeks ago. They were wondering why all of a sudden I wanted to go. And of course I didnt tell them it's just my first step haha next will be a gay bar :smiling_imp::smiling_imp::smiling_imp: but maybe wont bring them to that. They are straight as an arrow lol im closeted too :grin:
     
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    Haha I think you would like it. There was lady's there to I just didn't talk to any of them. I've been doin a lot of things on my own here lately in hopes of finding new friends. I like my friends but I'm tired of being around the same ppl all the time. I'm trying to expand a little lol I would go alone. if u can make it Inside the bar you will be fine. Getting there was the scariest part for me. But after a few drinks it was on!
     
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    I really enjoyed it I would recommend it if you are comfortable with yourself. You'll prob. Get your butt smacked a few times but it was only the ones in drag that seemed to be doin that. I didn't mind though I mean it's a gay bar afterall!
     
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    Oh wow! Sounds awesome! Where i live there are no gay bars in our whole county (sucks), so am really looking forward to uni. Bit nervous about trying it to, but reading this really gave me confidence. Nice to know even the hardcore bars are still pretty chill.
     
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    Glad it went well! :clap::clap::clap:
     
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    Thanks
     
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    Thanks I'm glad to hear I boosted your confidence! Trust me I was very nervous too so if I can do it so can you!
     
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    That's awesome! I've always wondered what it's like in a gay bar, especially as someone who's never been in that new environment before.