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I can't help thinking about sex with women

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by junebug99, Oct 4, 2017.

  1. silverhalo

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    Well sounds like you need to get out there and find your Liz @Skibby1989 :slight_smile:
     
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    My one of my good qualities is I can make someone laugh even in the sadness. I always seem to find the right way to manage it. I'm not a big fan of the club scene either. I've done that in my 20's and I'm not interested. I prefer going to a bar where you can have a one on one conversation. I'm a very generous person even though I don't make much money. I do like to treat sometimes. And even buy a small gift for no reason at all. I've done that before for my husband. But he doesn't really care and he's cheap and not thougtfull at all. I would like someone who appreciates my kind heart instead of always crushing it. I never expect anything in return for my generosity just the smile on the person's face is enough thanks for me. I want to love a woman with all my heart. I don't have time for someone that uses people. Trust is also important to me. Without trust I feel it wouldn't work. I wish that all of us on here can find this kind of love someday soon.
     
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    I got a little emotional when I wrote this. I find I'm more tuned into my emotions when I express myself on here. I'm guessing this is a good thing?
     
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    I'm sure you will make someone very happy.
     
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    No, she hasn't, yet, fortunately.
     
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    What do you mean yet haha. Have you asked her if that's what she thinks?
     
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    I think I just get a little insecure sometimes, especially about aspects of my body. But she has hangups about parts of her body too (we are both in our forties and everybody has wear and tear) so in a way we are equal! I think there's a lot of pressure on women to look good, gay or not.
     
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    Oh absolutely. My girlfriend has an amazing body and I definitely do not. I totally get it sometimes I get insecure about it but who am I to tell her what she wants. She is still here after 8years so there must be something she likes.
     
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    Absolutely, that's been my downfall on many occasions, the 'how am I looking?' 'does my stomach look flabby in this position?' 'what is she thinking about my body?' etc. etc. That's why I only ever have sex in a relationship because you know the person and you're in love and you know they love you no matter how you look.
     
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    I know how you feel. I have scars and stretch marks even though I am working hard to get into shape I am fat. I think who will find that attractive. I guess all women have issues with their bodies. I think I mostly like someone for their personality first and that is what makes them appealing to me.
     
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    I 100% agree with this, I don't look at someone's body first, always personality. If we connect on an emotional level that makes me attracted to them. Normal weight or overweight, whatever - Doesn't bother me if they have a sensitive and intelligent mind.
     
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    I just recently started thinking about it more, a first since my break up....I miss intimacy, I’m not the greatest at spoken/written expression. I totally miss showing someone I’m so into them in my best way...so so miss that. Not sure if I will ever have that chance again
     
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    It's the connection that I'm looking for. I don't have that in my marriage. Sure we are friends, but he just wants to have sex. No connection, just sex. All I can think about is how much better I think it will be with a woman. I never really cared about sex, but now that I know who I am I feel more in tune with my feelings about it. And I hope one day it will be wonderful. With a woman that accepts me for me.
     
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    Me too. I usually am the one that holds my feelings in. It would be so nice to be intimate with a woman that just likes me for who I am. And I would totally give her the same feelings back.
     
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    I would like to feel like I was on the same page with someone. That we are working together and want the same things. I feel now like everything is on me and I am pulling the whole relationship. I want to be partners, friends, and lovers. I agree that personally and compatibility is more important than looks. If I like you as a person than more than likely I can be attracted.
     
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    That's pretty much how my relationship is. I want that too.
     
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