I can't help thinking about sex with women

I think about it too and way to much. Sometimes while I am driving home I think about kissing a woman, among other things, and I get like a electric shock going through me. Hell just the thought of holding her hand sends shivers through my body and I have to almost shake myself to clear my head. I am having trouble concentrating at work even. I don't ever think that I have thought about sex so much in my life. I think you are right rushing into sex with someone would be a mistake it would be much better to get to know them first.

 

It's pretty normal. It's even happening to me lately and I've been out for over a decade.

 

Well I have promised myself that if I have the chance in the future to be in a different relationship that I am not going to be afraid to tell the person what I want and like. What I would like to try and discuss each others fantasies. Hopefully without fear of being judged. And for god sake not have the same boring sex each time making sure to change it up. If it goes long-term remember to go on dates with each other as well as keep talking to one another. My husband doesn't even ask me about my day.

 

Am I strange? I get those kind of desires around my girlfriend - even just hearing her voice on the 'phone or texting - and I used to get het up and flustered around my catalyst. I do enjoy looking at other women and now I acknowledge it for what it is rather than say to myself that I am just comparing. But the real excitement mostly starts for me in the context of relating to a person and emotionally connecting through talking. I only very occasionally meet a woman and feel an instant shock go through my body. Most of the time it builds much more gradually - as I get to know her. I can't fantasise about sex with someone I don't know.

 

I've been like this for months and can't get past that I think I've put all this in my head. I looked into female orgasm a lot and then watched some porn and then think I had a dream about being with a women and then have been dreaming ever since. It's day dreaming mostly when my mind just wanders but have been researching lgbt a lot and also watched loads of lesbian films books etc as I was curious and do enjoy them. Sometimes I think that I've unlocked some inner desire and I've finally found who I am but then other times think I've put it all in my head and am looking for a reason why my life has gone the way it has.

 

I also have this fear. I will feel so confident and sure that I have just revealed who I really am, but then I so easily revert to the fear that I have just been in one giant polarized fantasy. But then I remember that these feelings have been there in some capacity for years. And I just really don't think it's possible to have something so big last through these months. I am just trusting that this came up because it IS real. Though I know it is scary.

@junebug, I am the same way. I am thinking about sex with women all the time. The fantasies are rich with scenario and details. I can't wait to have the emotional and physical side of myself tapped into with sex with a woman. I have a feeling it will be amazing.

 

It's lovely to dream about isn't it? When I started dating my girlfriend, I told her similar things about needing to feel sure I was ready, I didn't want to jump in to sex, I wanted all of my emotions to be ready for it, we moved at a pace that felt right. (Granted, we didn't wait that long,ha ha!) Be open and communicate when you have a partner, and trust your instincts.

 

Oh it will be amazing with the right woman and then you will be constantly thinking about it and wanting it

 

It honestly makes me so delightfully happy to read the comments here. It's nice to know there are some who want trust, time, and a relationship before sex. ♡

I can't help but day dream about being loving and intimate with a woman too. Wish I had some sweet dreams to go along with it. That would be nice. [Wistful Sigh]

 

Had another therapy session today and think I'm starting to embrace it and believe that it's not all in my head. She said think of some foods you don't like and go away and come back next week and persuade me that you like them, can you do that? No! I guess it is really that simple you like something or you don't. Maybe one day sexuality will be as easy as a like or don't like.

 

See just reading something like this gave me a flush of excitement pleasure whatever lol.

 

Mostly it is from thoughts that I get this feeling but sometimes I can look up see a pretty girl and feel instantly attracted . One day after exercise class I noticed my coworkers shoulders looked very good glistening with sweat in her tank top. Then she turned around smiled at me and I noticed that her nipples were hard and showed through. Omg I almost died and had to get away. My body and mind betrayed me because I don't want attraction to my coworker. Most of the time I don't have any at all for her but when it happens I haven't planned it and it is a shock.

 

I just crave the closeness. I don't care about the physical intimacy so much as the emotional intimacy, but I would be lying if I said that the thoughts of both are not constantly on my mind. More than anything, I just want to cuddle with someone on the couch under my massive stack of blankets and watch a movie and be at peace. I have spent too much of my life guarding myself- now I just want someone that can help me tear down those walls as I become more comfortable with me.

 

AGREEE

but also, sex

 

Yes I agree and I am sorely lacking both in my life right now. I think if I had choose right now I would go emotional intimacy. I really miss that. My husband makes jokes about everything and it would be nice to have a serious adult conversation.

 

Yo

you get both physical and emotional intimacy with a woman that’s why it’s so amazing with the right person so different than with a man

 

Erm why are we talking about having to choose, no no be greedy have both.

Cuddles, yes I don't actually think I could live without cuddles. When I was first talking to my now girlfriend on EC, this is when we just started talking before we got close, I wrote a message which said something like, 'for me it's not about the sex but about coming home to someone who wants to hear about your day and who I can sit on the couch and hold hands with'. Since then she said it was one of the things I said that she really liked.

But yes you are right sex is a very welcome perk .

 

Of course I want both but for me that is only a possible future option.

 

For sure but if we are dreaming of future possibilities for you we need to dream big.