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I’m in love with my boyfriend but I think I’m gay.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Quacky, Apr 15, 2020.

  1. Quacky

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    Hi,

    First post, I don’t know where to go to talk about this and get advice.

    I’m in love with my boyfriend, totally, he’s lovely, kind, best person I’ve ever met. Problem is, I don’t think I’m as sexually attracted as I want to be. I don’t find men attractive, I don’t really care for sex with men but can do it if that makes sense. I’ve had girlfriends, loved everything about it emotionally and sexually.

    I can’t tell if I’m gay because I love him. But something doesn’t feel right, like something’s missing and it’s been bugging for me for months now. Help??? :frowning2:
     
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    Hi W
     
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    How are you doing ?
     
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    I’m almost in the same situation
     
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    Is this something you feel comfortable talking to him about? Its hard but it will lead to the conversation eventually. How do you think he will respond?
     
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    I'm am SO in the same situation, too. I love my boyfriend because he's been nothing but kind to me. But, sometimes I can't seem to be attracted to him in a sexual way. Tho, I haven't been with any girls, but I have had serious crushes on girls, too.

    Hang in there! I hope we both get through this!
     
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    Welcome to EC. :slight_smile:

    My suggestion would be to take your time to think this through, as there’s no need to rush. If you can, try to put this relationship out of your head for a bit and really think about what YOU want YOUR LIFE to look like.

    Also, don’t fall into the trap of thinking that staying with him is the same as not hurting him, because in the long term, it’s not. Short term pain now is better than a long term relationship filled with unhappiness and resentment.