I came out to my heterosexual partner in June. It was a huge relief. He was very accepting and supportive. My backstory is that I was(?) a lesbian in HS and college but was never accepted by my parents. I felt like I had to follow the heteronormative lifestyle in order to one day have the family I wanted and please my parents. So, I started dating men, got married, and had 2 children all within 4 years. With the help of my therapist I am realizing why I have been so depressed...bc im a lesbian, duh. Anyway, I recently finally worked up the courage to tell my husband that I can no longer be with him in order to be truly happy and live authentically. Well, now he is insisting on us trying harder and he wants us to "work really hard" on our marriage,. He says, "he is only committed to me for the rest of his life." He thinks that if we work on our relationship that I will be able to connect with him during sex. I do not think he gets the whole picture. I told him that I would try AGAIN for us, which I am. However, I am feeling defeated. I have worked so hard on coming to this realization. I felt extremely confident and relieved when I told him that I do not want to be with him. I was so ready to move forward. I feel like I have worked so hard getting closer to my true self and now I am moving backward again. On top of this he is deployed so its hard to connect and make concrete decisions when he is across the world. Part of me does want to try for our family (kids) but deep down I know that I will never be truly happy with him because of many reasons, not just sexuality. Has anyone experienced this or have any insight??