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How to let a guy know you're into him?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Robishere, Apr 8, 2018.

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  1. Federico98

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    I did not like him, so the fact that he's straight doesn't bother me too much. But yeah, it's quite weird, in fact I thought he could have liked me
     
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  2. Richard321

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    I think he did like you. He just decided not to pursue his original interest.
     
    #22 Richard321, Apr 21, 2018
  3. Federico98

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    I tried to find out if he was gay, and I immediately told him I was, after he had this kind of behaviour. But speaking with him I had the impression (later confirmed) that he could have never been gay. I think it was just a way to be nice, maybe he just wanted a friend.
     
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    I see. That must have been confusing for you to experience.
     
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  5. Federico98

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    I usually can't recognize gay people, but I thought it was a clear sign
    Usually I'm the one telling guys they're nice
     
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  6. Robishere

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    Hello, everyone! I know this thread is a bit old by now but I'm still in need of some help.

    So, ever since I last posted on this thread, things have been good! He's come by everyday and we've been talking more and more everyday. Sometimes I'll go into his store whenever I get the chance and he'll come up to me and walk me around until I leave. He's so unbelievably nice and I really don't wanna miss this chance. The problem is that after watching him and trying to talk to him, I've realized we're both equally socially awkward and anxious. I'm not the best at flirting but I've managed to get a few compliments in here and there. When it comes to him, I can tell he's trying really hard to keep up the conversation, we both are, but it always falls through or one of us ends up walking away. His go to phrase seems to be asking me what time I get off work but it never leads to anything?

    I went into work today expecting to see him but he never came so that meant he was off. Once We were getting close to closing (literally 5 minutes before I got off) he walked into the Café. My heart started racing because I'd never seen him in casual clothing. For some reason I had a slight feeling this would happen all day (him coming in at 6:00pm when I got off). We said our hello's and I mentioned how I didn't think I would be seeing him today as flirtatiously as I could so as to let him know that he was on my mind while he wasn't at work. The conversation was brief, however, because I had to tend to a customer complaining that her coffee wasn't dark enough. I saw him leaving the store he works at with some things he had bought a few minutes later as I was leaving work but he had his headphones in and was walking with a coworker so I didn't dare approach him.

    My point is that, yes, we talk everyday and I've been trying all these little flirtatious things but it's leading nowhere. I still feel like something could definitely come of this but whenever he comes by I freeze up and don't know what to say, we kind of both do. I really like this guy and I've never tried so hard to catch someone's attention. How can I take this to the next level? I'm trying but I'm an awkward introvert trying to let another awkward introvert know that I like him and it's not working out that great for me :sweat_smile:
     
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  7. Richard321

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    Rob, I don't know the answer, but don't give up and don't fret. Have you two exchanged phone numbers yet? Talking on the phone might be more of an ice breaker and it would be private too so more could be said. Plus, there is texting, too.
     
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    If he doesn't have your number write it on a cup or w.e he would like and give it to him XD.
     
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  9. Federico98

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    Yeaah this is a great idea :slight_smile:
     
    #29 Federico98, May 8, 2018
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    Seems you are both into each other. It's time to take the next step.

    Next time he asks you what time do you get off? Say I get off at _____ . Do you want to go have dinner / see a movie / or get naked and hang out a my place?
     
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    Could always try a cheesy pickup line:

    "If I told you you had a hot body, would you hold it against me?"
    "Nice shoes. Wanna fk?"

    Here's 900 more to choose from.
    https://pickup-lines.net/
     
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    Wow!
     
    #32 Richard321, May 9, 2018
  13. Federico98

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    Maybe he should take a little slower than asking him to get naked
     
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    Put a smile on your face and throw it out there with a cheesy pickup line.
    Starting with dinner (cheap quick dinner) and a movie or walk around the park would be best.

    Save the fancy expensive dinners for later dates.
     
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    Somewhere decent though. Maybe sushi if he likes it. Taking someone to fast food is not very romantic.
     
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    Haven't seen him since Monday but will definitely be seeing him tomorrow. Today I wrote down my phone number on a sticky note and had it in my pocket all day, even though I knew I wasn't gonna see him. I'll be carrying around the same note tomorrow and (hopefully) find the right/best moment to give it to him. Whether it be putting it in his baggie or putting it within the napkins before I hand them to him. I'm really hoping I gather the courage to go through with this. I'll let you all know! Thanks to everyone for all the advice, you've helped me out tremendously!
     
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    Hope it goes well tomorrow. Just make sure you put it somewhere he's sure to find it. Best.
     
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    I can easily spend $100 to $200 on sushi. I'd recommend a normal priced sit down restaurant.
     
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    That is a fucking lot of sushi :confused:
     
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    It's a lot more expensive in the midwest. I could see California being significantly cheaper as the water is right there.
     
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