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How to know when to call time?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by McLate, Jun 23, 2022 at 7:30 AM.

  1. McLate

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    Hi all,
    I am struggling to know whether I should separate from my wife and worried about how hard it might be for her.
    I'm early 50's and we are together over 20 years with 2 teenagers.
    I finally admitted that I am attracted to men and likely am gay or at least somewhere that side of the Kinsey scale. I came out to my wife some time ago and its been really difficult for both of us. I have sought some support but she hasn't as yet.
    I feel we are now living in some kind of compromise arrangement where we ignore the issue but I feel unhappy.
    Any thoughts would be welcome.
    Mc
     
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    My wife and I are in the process of separating/divorce but it has nothing to do with sexuality. She's bi as well. We are taking things very slowly as there are extenuating circumstances. We are working on how to cohabitate as roomates and moving forward with seperate lives.
     
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    Yes, it's a big life change, so it makes sense to take it slow. I hope it will work out successfully for you both
     
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    Congratulations on coming out to your wife, it is never easy. I think perhaps you need to just be open and honest with her that you are unhappy in the current situation. It is possible she also feels the same but either way long term it is unlikely to make either of you happy, however hard it might be to end it.
     
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    Thanks silverhalo. I think I agree but she is a wonderful person and I'm struggling to bring up the difficulty emotional conversations again. Maybe I just need to man up a bit and stop avoiding