How to hook up for the first time KNOWING NOTHING.

Porn will show you how to do anything you want to know, there are even legitimate sex education videos on some porn sites that are there just to teach people with real body parts instead of a banana.

If you have specific questions, I can probably answer them. Can't really help with the country not being friendly for LGBT thing though, since I'm American.

 

Don't expect sympathy or support from gay men who are "experts" at hooking up. If they are on hook-up apps, its likely they don't want to teach a newcomer or introduce him to gay sex, they want to meet people who are highly experienced and can give them the mind-blowing sex they are looking for. It is sad, but a lot of gay men do tend to forget what it was like being new to gay sex and newly coming out of the closet.

If you do meet someone you'd like to hook up with, whether in person or on an app, be honest and say you are inexperienced. If there is anything you don't feel comfortable doing, or you don't feel ready for, let them know. Hopefully you will meet someone who is patient and respectful to you, even if it is just a one off hook-up. And if you meet a partner who you change your mind about, you are allowed to say no and stop.

 

Some people are just swine, doesn't matter if they are straight or gay. Remember what DD said above. Its ok to say NO.

Dean

 

Hey just remember we build up more pressure on ourselves than there really is. I’m going on my first ###### date in a few days and I’m like totally nervous. Partly just because I’m afraid of rejection. But I’m 31, newly out and this is just where life is. I can’t regret not having these experiences earlier in life. I sounded like a crazy person on the messaging but he said he’s still interested. I’m hoping he’s not one of those bad ###### stories but I figure why not have one or two of those!

 

As someone said there're a lot of videos out there that can help you learn some techniques and moves. Do remember though that everybody has different kinks so some things may not work on some people.