I have found my self in a situation that would suit for a soap opera and am in need of advice or ideas or anything... So I am bi, married with two kids. We have been together for 13 years with my husband, 8 of them married. I had just realised that I am bi when I started relationship with my husband-to-be. I told about my sexuality to him quite early on in our relationship. During our years together I have had several crushes to females, but those have passed as I have chose not to pursue the feelings. Past few years it has come more and more obvious that we have grown a part with my husband. Our relationship has been good, but has never quite felt right. But I haven't been in a rush to make any decision about our marriage. About two years ago I got a quainted with a female, who is living in a marriage with her wife. They have kids as well, same age as ours. So first we met with kids. Later on we started to go on for walks once a week together (without the kids). I have gotten to know her better and better and suddenly a few months ago I realised that I have a huge crush on her. They have difficulties on their marriage as well and we have talked a lot about these things too. But she is bi as well and is now trying to find out whether she sould explore relationship with a man if they divorce with her wife. I have come to conclusion that my marriage with my husband is at it's end and reacently we talked about it. But this crush I have on my friend is messing my head. I really need to get over it somehow. To end the friendship or even taking a longer brake from seeing her isn't an option at the moment, as I am not willing to disappear from her life. She has had too many bad experiences with friends disappearing from her life. And I don't want to hurt her like that. And of course she has become very important to me. But how on earth I get this crush of mine to fade away when I am seeing her once a week? Do I just have to endure this torment and hope it will pass with time? Any tips for me?