I'm 26 years old and I've been trying to think of how I can finally come out to my parents. I'm out to most of my friends and been in a relationship for the past 4 years. I've also been living abroad for the past 5 yrs and this problem of coming out to my folks was the main drive for me to leave. My parents are your typical homophobic Middle Easterners who think that gays and lesbians are sick people. I've tried pressing them about their views on the issue, but this usually results in some biblical story of Sodom & Gemorah or just plain disgust and proclamations of disowning any family member who would "choose" that lifestyle. My younger brother knows and he thinks it's time for my parents to know. My uncle recently told me that he knows and advised me against telling them for fear of my safety. My bf on the other hand is out to his parents (they are also Middle Eastern too but moved to the US in the 70s, therefore more liberal) and urges me to come out to them in the form of a letter. This is getting to the point that my mother will call me just to set me up with some girl, while reminding me that my cousins have all married by now and it's time for me too. My bf and I are planning to move back to the US sometime soon in the near future, and it feels like this lie will be too much to handle by that point. I'm going on a visit home in the next couple of months, so I've been thinking about this issue more than usual. Sorry for the long story. I appreciate any insight anyone can provide in how to go about this tough situation.