i came out awhile ago but im not sure if my parents accept it which sucks. i was wondering how i should comfront them about it. their thoughts and feelings about it. i want to but i dont know how to come up with the motavation for it. please help:bang: -justin
Well, my parents didnt accept it at first, and tbh they still dont, but now they atleast only tell me to become a sexless monk one a week rather than out-right think im the spawn of hell? I showed them this to help: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/showpost.php?p=445794&postcount=47 And also this: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/showpost.php?p=444011&postcount=10 Giving them PFLAG material would help, or if you know any gay kids whos parents accept them maybe get them to sit down with yours?
Hi there! If you have the feeling that your parents might not have accepted it fully yet, then give them some materials to read. PFLAG has a good information kit for parents. You can find it under this link: http://www.pflag.org/fileadmin/user_upload/Our_Daughters_and_Sons_Final_03.pdf There is also a book entitled, "Now that you know," that you could get for them from the library, which is pretty good as well. In terms of how to confront them or get them to talk about it, maybe when you do something, like trying to find a support group, or go to a GSA, you could just say, 'I joined a LGBT support group, or a GSA at my school.' You could also bring it up by mentioning that you have heard something on TV or read LGBT related stuff on the internet. You could also take the direct route and ask them, 'are you okay with it?' But I'm wondering though, why do you think that your parents might not accept it? How did they take your coming out? Hope this helps a bit!
Don't think of it as 'confronting' them. Just having a discussion with them. They might be hoping it's a phase and therefore don't want to talk about it. Or they might be as uncomfortable about the subject as you are. Just bring it up again in a non-confrontational way and have a discussion about how you're feeling about it, and that you'd like to hear how they are feeling about it...
I agree with Jim. When you use the term "confront" it sounds like you are going to have a big fight. Your parents are probably in denial. I would definitely try to get them some educational materials. You could also tell them about PFLAG. Say "Hey Mom, you haven't said much since I came out to you. I just wanted you to know about a support group for parents with gay children that I know about." Show her the website to find a chapter: www.pflag.org Opening up the dialogue again can be as simple as that. Good luck!
Eventually I'm sure they'll accept it, it may just take some time. You're still their same child, nothing's changed, except that you've discovered something new about yourself. Give them some time. And the PFLAG stuff would help, too. Try it out, it won't hurt, will it?