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How to accept that i like transsexual porn?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Sadness, Feb 22, 2021.

  1. Sadness

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    Sup guys, how youre doing today?

    As the title said i am really struggling to accept the fact that i indeed like transwoman porn. I feel very bad because of this, but it is something that really arouses me in porn, i do know that porn doesnt affect our sexuality but it bothers me, i start to think that i am im fact gay because there is a woman with a penis and i get aroused by her, even if i know they are woman and i respect them.

    But how can i know if i am indeed attracted to them or is just some kind of fetish(which makes me feel even worse) because if i fantasized about them i would probably feel good to, but is it possible that all of this is because of porn? And if i do feel genually attracted to them, how to accept this fact, i will never tell this to a friend of mine because i know they will start to judge and make fun of me and start calling me gay, so i want to hide this just to myself and with you guys because i know you are supportive, so how can i deal with that(i just watched a transsexual porn and i am feeling bad).
     
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    Its even easier for me ro masturbate to them now rather just woman with pussies, i get aroused with both but it seems that transsexual its easier, and i dont know if that means something
     
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    Maybe the first step would be to learn to accept the fact that women are women, whether cis or trans or outside the cis/trans binary. Being attracted to a woman does not make a man homosexual, regardless of her birth assignment.
     
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    I know that woman are woman, and they are very pretty, but something in my mind tells me that the fact that i get aroused looking at a penis(even if its not just the penis itself, is all of her that arouses me) makes me hard so i should get hard looking at males genitalias too, but it doesnt work like that.

    So i start to have intrusive thoughts about penis and it bothers me even when i am half awake.
     
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    I reviewed to make sure. You are currently under treatment and it still has not been that long. Let your meds work and work with your therapist and/or psychiatrist on this.

    You should really give some thought about what you really think and feel on this subject. Work on it with your professionals if you have to.
     
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    Hey! I would like to first let you know i identify as a straight male, I was also struggling with the idea that I was watching trans porn regularly and I would get off easier to them than with regular porn. It was strange to me do to the fact that I actually wanted to perform oral on a trans woman. And it was tearing me apart inside. I didn’t like it but it was what I became aroused to and really enjoyed it in the moment but felt shameful after wards to the point that I got a therapist.
    I’ve taken the initiative to read a book, Your Brain on Porn, by Gary Wilson.

    Between my therapist and myself I believe I just got to the point that I built up a tolerance to porn. I even started to venture into gay porn. Wanting to perform oral while watching porn but in real life never had the desire but I felt it tearing me apart asking myself, “am I really gay? Bi? Pansexual?”
    I decided to take a 90 day break from masturbation and 6 months from porn. It’s been a rough journey but a couple weeks in, but I’ve realized that my fetishes are actually starting to fade.

    It could just be a fetish or it could be a discovery about myself. But I’m taking the time to sober up from porn and masturbation and see if it’s a tolerance thing or discovery about myself.

    Remember women are women are women are women. And there’s no shame in liking something you didn’t view right at first, it can be a discovery about yourself.

    But take an abstinence period. It might be a reboot. Also talk to a therapist who specializes in sexual behavior and problematic sexual behavior. It’s great steps to take!

    Good luck on your journey :slight_smile:
     
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    I would also like to clarify what I mean by “regular porn”.

    Regular porn- referring to regularly watching cis porn, prior to me regularly watching trans porn. I’ll proof read my post next time