How old were you when you came out?

Accepted when I was 11, came out at 12... Except to my parents. Can I put 18+ for that part?

 

Came out at 21 in college, starting with the guy I'd just had sex with (for some reason he wasn't very surprised).

Came out to my mom and best friend within the next couple of weeks and either before or after that started working through co-workers (my boss was gay and became something of a mentor to me - answering any questions I might have, letting me check out some of his porn, that kind of thing - and it was fun to check out all the hot college guys together), friends, etc.

In terms of reactions, most folks were 'oh, ok'. I did get one 'maybe it's just a phase' from a former roommate (I just smirked at that one) and one 'But you CAN'T be gay! You don't fit my stereotype!' from a co-worker (he was great fun for weeks - kept insisting he needed to 'cure' me by taking me to a strip club or topless bar. I was fine with the idea but told him he would have to come to a gay bar with me. If I was going to waste an evening then he had to waste one too - he never agreed to that). Oh, and one housemate who claimed he was scared I would sneak into his bedroom one night and rape him while simultaneously constantly asking me if I thought he was attractive while wandering around with his shirt off.:eusa_doh:

Todd

 

I first told someone I was gay when I was 15, I think in 2010. My closest friend at the time, and one of my closest friends now.

I started the full coming out process over the past 2 years, and now I'm fully out to pretty much everyone who wants to know. All responses have been good - overwhelmingly so in fact. I was more surprised that my grandmother was completely fine with it, even though she was in disbelief at first (I'm apparently too 'manly' to be gay, whatever that means).

My mother keeps on saying, in a joking manner, that our family name will die with me, since I'm gay, and my sister has no intentions of having kids. Even if I was straight though, I wouldn't be having kids.

 

Very shortly after turning 14, I came out to my friends at school and my sister. A few months later I was out to my parents after encouragement from my friends.

The responses were mostly positive. There was this really rude guy at school who tried to convince me that my attraction to girls was all in my head, and an annoying girl who tried to tell me I was just going through a phase. My mom was kinda weird about it. But generally I've gotten pretty good responses.

 

I came out at 21. But I have been closeted, confused, and questioning since I was 11. so 10 years later...

 

I came out when I was 13... Pretty much accepted by everyone except for the homophobes (jerks at school)

 

Came out to people at an LGBT club in my university in September 2014. It was rather easy to do that because it's known to be a safe space for all GSM.

Coming out to friends and family is still something I'm working on :/

 

20. Wish I'd come out earlier but eh

 

24 to a few close friends, 25 to a few others & by 26 to my immediate & close extended family.

 

Found out I was bi/pan at 18, which is when I came out to my high school friends, which included a cousin. And none of them had a problem with it. Actually, they all said that they kinda figured and wondered why it took so long to say it XD

They are the main group that know about my sexuality. I told my little sister when I was 18 or 19 (she was 12 or 13), but she didn't have a problem with it. She was just like "Oh okay." I also told another cousin around this time too. She didn't care either.

I've only told a few people since then. Well, my old job, I told one person there, and then he ended up telling the rest of my shift. I didn't ask him to, but he knew I hated being in the closet, while at the same time too scared to tell them, since it was work and that could mess up a lot for me, if someone decided they didn't like it. This was when I was 19. But despite my worries, no one had a problem with it. We had a small shift though too, so we were all already close friends. One or two of them were surprised, but that was the most negative that it got. One of them said they called it cuz they called me a lesbian when I cut my hair to a mohawk haha

I only came out to one person about my sexuality since then, I think. Someone at the job I have now. He's gay though, so he doesn't have any room to talk lol I thought about coming out to everyone at my new job, but considering the people there, it might not be a good idea. So for right now, the people who know are my high school friends, who I still talk to on occasion, my old coworkers, and my current coworker. And the only family that knows are my sister and two cousins. So the only things I have to tackle are my work and the rest of my family. Tho the only family I'd care about telling are my dad, but he's a major homophobe, so I'll deal with that later.

 

I've come out as different things over the years.

- Gay/Lesbian
It was before the summer of '06 and I was 11. It was taking very badly. The whole situation was very, very odd.

I told members on another site that I use and they didn't seem to have a problem with it.

-Transgender
The first two times I came out, I got different reactions. I would have been, I think, I Middle school the second time and maybe, elementary, the first time. The first person was my grandmother. She didn't understand at all. She told me something about how she knew that being a female was hard, that God made it that way, and I had to accept his will because he knew best. Then, this lead to some awkward moments when I brought up my past lesbian experiences. The second time was with my mom. It took her awhile to "warm up to the idea". I'm still iffy about her methods.

Third time, was on another site that I used. I got a lot of support and a few criticisms. Everything seems cool on that issue now. (18 and/or 19)

And, I told a friend of mine offline and she was very supportive of it. (18 and/or 19)

I also told my ex-therapist about it, via email. She seemed cool with it. I highly doubt that she now knows otherwise. :/ (18, I think? I'm not sure.)

- Bisexual: I told quite a few of my friends that I was bisexual. They were cool with it. I had to have been in high school around this time.

- Asexual: Again, I told my friends on that other site. It was mixed. Later on, a few of them were super pissed about "asexuals that have sexual fetishes" saying that they couldn't possibly be asexual. (18 and/or 19)

-Pansexual and Androgyne: A few of my friends on that same site know that I've been mulling over the possibility of being Pansexual and a few know that I identify as being an Androgyne. (19)

 

I plan on being open about when I go to college at 18 and tell people should it come up in conversation. But I plan on being completely out to everyone by the time I turn 20 or 21.

 

I'm too manly to be gay as well apparently. My friends say it's cause my voice is too deep, and how I don't bitch about anything. Uhm.... What.

 

Came out at 25. Results were good. No troubles with anyone

 

14

 

To most of the important people in my life (close friends and family) between 24 and 26. To others it's still a work in progress.

 

i'm planning on coming out sometime after I turn 18 and am out living on my own, that way I can break all family ties easily when the inevitable negative reactions come. of course this is assuming I don't go "insane" and/or come out irrationality before then.

 

First realized it about myself at age 20. Decided to "try it on for size" without telling anybody for awhile. When it seemed to fit more and more, I started coming out to other people. I was pretty much out by age 22.

Lex

 

I was 13 wen I came out to my best mate but I was 21 wen I came out to my mum, she said I was just doing it for attention and that id grow out off it. I'm 29 nw and nope still not straight and happy to be. Xx