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How often would you masturbate

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by earthguy, Apr 6, 2018.

  1. Lalaith

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    I still do it once a day, and I have a girlfriend. I do it even if I don't need it, just out of boredom, I guess. The problem is I need porn to get things going and the usual things get old. So I've ended up masturbating to things I'm not proud of. I miss the good old days when my imagination was enough.
     
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    Imagination and text porn has always been better for me than video porn for some reason
     
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    Over the years there have been a lot of threads about people being concerned about masturbating too much. And if you really think about it, all of our negative views about masturbation are driven by judgment learned mostly from organized religion.

    There's some solid research from the sex therapy fields that show that orgasm has beneficial effects to the body and brain that cannot be achieved by any other means. So if someone isn't having sex regularly, then masturbating is a way of fulfilling a beneficial purpose, in addition to feeling good.

    The data I've seen indicates that anything from 0 to 7 or so times a day is normal for people in their teen years. Typically this slows down a bit as people get into their 20s and 30s. But there's absolutely nothing wrong with frequent masturbation unless it is becoming compulsive to the point where it is interfering with daily activities (such as staying home to masturbate instead of going out with friends or family.)
     
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    for some people it's like that, the stereotype says it's mostly women. I have done it by reading erotica and have tried writing for my own delight. So I do get its appeal.
     
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    Usually once a day for me. Sometimes I take a break from it for a few days, other times I may do it more that once in a day.
     
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    Generally speaking, everyday.
     
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    At least once a day during the workweek and more often on weekends.
     
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    Almost never, I dislike masturbation.
     
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    Why?
     
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    I don't think many other animals do it, though. Well, not even a quarter as much as human beings. I've heard that individual non human primates do it - but that seems to be if they discovered it for them selves... I once saw a bird fly repeatedly towards an outdoor mirror and up it. But that again was an individual.

    Don't you think us humans abuse it?
     
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    Orgasms hurt like hell and make me withdraw in the corner as I pray for medication to stop the ongoing cramping. I've considered whether or not I have some medical issue, but some of the more severe problems can take years to get a real diagnosis for.
     
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    No. As I said, some of the most interesting research indicates there's an actual hardwired benefit, in terms of hormones released and other things that happen at orgasm that benefit the brain and several other organs. I wish I could remember the name of the book, it was really interesting reading. Of course, I don't know much about animal sexual habits so can't really comment on that.
     
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    There's no question, if orgasm is painful, that there's a medical issue. I would see a professional to get that addressed.
     
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    I don't ever...it doesn't do anything for me.
     
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    Uh...maybe a few times a week? I'm not totally sure, it varies. I used to like everyday but I think my sex drive dropped a bit because of the SSRIs I take
     
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    Creativemind, that sounds very distressing and debilitating, too. I assume that means that you avoid orgasm through both masturbation and sex because of this pain that you get at orgasm... Surely you should have this investigated. It shouldn't take long to assertain the cause. Has this always been the case for you by the way? Have you researched it online? Do, please, both research it online and see a doctor about it.
     
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    Once every two days on average, but I can go without any for several days straight when there are work or engaging activities to distract me from my libido. Longest record was 6 weeks without, and shortest was um, 8 or 9 times in a day.

    You're not alone, though I only feel that way half the time. I very rarely get to end a masturbation session feeling satisfied and nourished.
    Now I wonder if something isn't wired correctly in us both :sweat_smile:
     
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    I don't know about wiring. It's a mental thing. Or is that the same e thing? I'm in the position of not judging others if they do it. But something in me or of me judges me if and when I d do it. Yet, sometimes the self judgement can be much less for me.

    But what I do do, and what most others maybe / probably don't do, is sometimes go on a gay peer to peer charline and speak with other guys - sometimes having 121s. For me, it not only heightens it all but it's very hot too. And I tend to do that rather than just masturbate in my mind alone. But I do enjoy both. And although I do that much less frequently than many others masturbate per se, I still mostly feel bad later for doing that. I think I also do my masturbating, when I do do it, on the phone with others because it gives me a bigger, longer experience to make it worth enduring the inevitable self damning afterwards. But, I can go for weeks or a month+ without masturbating in any way in order to feel better for not doing it - but it is surely me being self denying. Then I either give in again or else choose to indulge / not self deny for a while again...
     
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    Question for you guys: do you wash down after masturbating? Do you shower after it? Or don't you feel the need to?
     
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    I mostly do it, in bed, before I go to sleep.. so just normal cleanup. If I do it in the morning, I do it in the shower. I’m particular about hygiene, but don’t feel any need to shower after the night sessions.