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How often do you want sex?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Dreamsexul, Dec 18, 2019.

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If you could, how often would you have sex?

  1. Never

    4 vote(s)
    7.1%
  2. Hardly ever

    5 vote(s)
    8.9%
  3. Couple of times a month

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    5.4%
  4. Every week

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  5. Couple of times a week

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    25.0%
  6. Every day

    12 vote(s)
    21.4%
  7. Twice a day

    1 vote(s)
    1.8%
  8. Multiple times a day

    13 vote(s)
    23.2%
  1. Dreamsexul

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    In a perfect world - where your body worked fine, and you had your choice of lovers, how often would you be having sex of some kind?
     
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    Once or twice a week or even every couple of weeks would be enough for me. Even though i jerk off nearly every day, I think it's one of those things where once I have it, I don't want it all the time. I like listening to music every day, but I wouldn't want to sit through a live concert every night, it would get tiring.
     
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    I said couple of times a month but reading that I would probably say Evey day. If it was the right person. I should read things befor I vote
     
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    I agree with this, I went with a couple of times a week because I know that at the beginning, a couple of times a day/everyday is the norm, and I enjoy that part but I do think eventually it can end up coming across as a bit of a chore and so I would be happy with a few times a week being the norm with of course variation (Like I don't want a schedule of Monday YES, Tuesday No, but something like maybe twice Monday, nothing Tuesday and then Yes on Wednesday and Thursday).

    My ideal would be finding someone with a similar libido as me so none of us feel deprived or cohersed into sex.
     
  5. Dreamsexul

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    In a perfect world I'd be having sex a lot with my lover ... Prob 2-5 times a day??? I certainly think about it often enough ...
     
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    And of course I'd still enjoy a lot of affection. Hugging, kissing, holding hands etc. and just cuddling on the sofa. But I would not need full on sex all the time. Who knows, I might surprise myself and end up with a partner who I can't get enough of and we go at it like rabbits every 5 minutes, but I picture myself having sex in moderation.
     
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    Yeah, same. Although every couple of weeks might a bit too long for me, I'd say once a week or slightly longer.
     
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    Hardly ever, I think. I'm too afraid of STDs, particularly HIV. And I know it's easy to say "Oh, just use a condom," but you try convincing the men in my area to use condoms. I'm a bottom, I'm not the one who needs to wear a condom, the tops are supposed to, but don't. I live in an area of filthy buggers who bugger each other bareback-- say that ten times fast. My whole county is infected with something. And this is still in that perfect world where my body works fine. My body doesn't in real life. I haven't been able to get it up properly for quite some time now and I've actually gotten comfortable with that. I think it's for the best, really. The lower my sex drive, the better. It's opportunistic celibacy-- If I'm offered sex, I turn it down, I'll turn my back on an open lust. I flee from it with absolute glee in my heart.
     
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    But in a perfect world there'd be no disease.
    How often would you desire sex then?
     
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    Well, considering how low my sex drive has gotten due to my medication, probably still hardly ever. Or do I not have to take medication in this world, either?
     
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    Well with the right person as many times are necessary to satisfy both of us.
     
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    Right now with my wife 1 a year, but with the right guy I'm thinking it would be very frequently.
     
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    If my friend (who's also bi/gay) was into me like I really wish he was (we had sex once but don't talk about it), I'd let him have sex with me all the time because I want him to feel good. It's not about being for me, for me. I subtly get off on giving other people pleasure, even if that's not through an orgasm from me.
     
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    Always. The desire never goes away. My record is I believe 21 times in one day and it still wasn't enough (don't try this, it was quite painful by the end).

    Realistically 2-3 a day works pretty well.
     
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    This is kind of a hard poll for me to answer because my answer is kinda weird. Currently, I don’t want sex. I’m 14 almost 15 and a Christian, so right now I don’t feel like personally I am quite ready for sex, as I’m too young. Also I’m a Christian, and I know I probably should wait for marriage to have sex, but tbh that’s mega unrealistic. I do want to be in a stable committed relationship when I do, however. So currently, I don’t want sex.
    But, if I was married or in a long term relationship, maybe 1-3 times a week.
     
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    Just to say @CactiCat , it's not mega unrealistic to wait until marriage to have sex. I know many people who were virgins until their wedding night (myself included). It's not what most people want, nor am I saying its a good thing (bit of a disaster for me), but if it's what you want then it is totally doable. Just has to be what you really want. :slight_smile:
     
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    me after reading replies that can do more than once a day

    Lol. I mean I jerk off daily but man I dont think I can have sex daily! So much work! I guess my ideal partner would be someone that enjoys doing it while Im just laying there being lazy haha.
     
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    Perhaps but once a month. It’s never been something I’ve enjoyed. Not since having been r*ped by the ex numerous times
     
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    E’ry day. During the spring/summer it be like e’ry other day, but during the fall/winter it be 2-4 times a day.
     
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    once a week or slightly longer.