How many times have you been in love?

I chose 'once' because there is this girl and I know I must love her in some way. Whether it's an 'in love' feeling, I'm uncertain. However it is far beyond what I've felt for any other human being on this planet, so it must be love of some form. <3

 

Never.

 

Infatuated, a few times. But never love.

To be honest, it's difficult for me to actually love. For one, it was never nurtured as a child, beginning with my parents and continuing all throughout my childhood, and as a result it's a very underdeveloped ability. It was also one of the core elements as to why, I was so angry and hurtful growing up, because love 'never happened' to me. Everybody else seemed so happy with their families and friends, but me? It really irritated, then outright infuriated me, that I was this exception.

Instead of trying to fix myself, I decided to just sabotage and ruin others. Needless to say, despite the power highs I got, which only momentarily distracted me from my internal struggles, nothing good ever came from these methods.

The closest to being in love, would have to be with a young lady I met a few months ago. But even then, it's too early to know. I have a fondness for her, but our situation won't work out beyond friends. I suppose, in due time, I can come to love her as a friend... but that isn't the "love" being asked for here, is it?

I often wonder if I can love, or if I simply get excited at somebody enjoying my company. Stimulation instead of actual emotion, basically.

 

once! currently in love with my best friend #oops... we both love each other but she says she is into guys and not girls (except me) its just weird, but im loving the time i have with her as my "girlfriend" although i know she will eventually fall for a guy.:eusa_doh:

 

One husband, one boyfriend, one girlfriend. I'm hoping to make it four times someday, too, even at my age I remain hopeful!

 

Three times.

Once with someone who couldn't accept himself for religious reasons.

Once with someone who didn't work out for multiple reasons.

Once with my current partner (now husband) of 18 years.

Todd

 

Definitely once, with my current partner. But years ago, while still grappling with my own sexuality, I fell hard for a gay guy. I propositioned me, and he turned me down. I recall sitting on the floor of my shower, crying, because it hurt so bad. Despite that, in retrospect, I don't think I was really "in love" with him. Just crushing really bad.

Lex

 

Never.

I don't count infatuation and I don't count interest that is not reciprocated, in either direction. FWB situations with good sex don't count either.

I have an issue with "equality." I don't seek anyone who is out of my league nor do I want to fend off someone I don't want to be involved with, for a variety of reasons. The more someone in the latter scenario pushes it or pressures me, the less nice I have gotten. Then, the ambivalence I sometimes feel doesn't make me feel particularly needy to be in a relationship. It's not fair to me and, mostly, it's not fair to someone else.

I fully accept that I will probably never experience love during my lifetime and that's ok. I'm not the only one, even though it's at or near the base of Maslow's hierarchy, probably above food, shelter, and safety.

 

Twice. It's funny. I was in a romantic relationship for almost two years and we lived together--he doesn't make the list. But my college roommate who was never comfortable enough with his sexuality to reciprocate in any meaningful way, he definitely does. The other is my current partner--we've been together for 17 years.

 

once, with this girl and im still madly in love with her but she has a boyfriend. we met in 7th grade math to me she is perfection i would do anything to be back with her. shes my everything.

 

Once

 

Never.

I've experienced that weird "potential to be in love with someone" feeling before, like I could fall in love with them, but I know I don't love them.

That's the closest I've come to being "in love".

 

Once.

It ended poorly, thankfully. We are still very friendly around one another when we rarely cross paths, but regardless of the reason why it ended it would have ended eventually. I expected more out of life than he did and we were fundamentally heading down different paths.

 

What is love?

 

I am in this boat now. I don't know what to do. Our first date is Friday. This is uncharted territory.

 

Twice.

First guy was my gorgeous as all hell, Andrew McCarthy look alike 8th grade science teacher. Yup.

Second was/is actually the first girl I've ever fallen for. She's got eyes as blue as the sky, a smile that just about throws off my sense of balance and my brain turn to mush. I'd do anything to be with her. Too bad she's engaged. To another girl.

 

First of all thanks for the wonderful song OP...

Should I take your pool as a bad omen? I've been in love 3 times... So nothing more left for me out there?

 

That should read "what is love even"

For shame C P #Millennialism101

 

Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more...