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How long did it take you to reach authentic life?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Mihael, Jun 21, 2017.

  1. LaurenSkye

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    I'm still a work in progress after a few years of working on it. I'm not 100% sure what my end goal is, so I'm just taking things little by little.
     
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    I'm 46 now and admitted to myself I'm gay earlier this year. Since then, I've been active on this site, have been attending in person a gay support group and getting close to telling a close friend I'm gay. Seems like the train took a long time to get up to speed but now it is running on the tracks very quickly.
     
  3. Rade

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    I came out february 2018, leaving my wife November of the same year. I'd say I'm still on a journey and don't know what the future me will be. I've gone from coming out bisexual to being openly gay to everyone. I lost weight, did some exercise, bought tighter clothes, cut my hair short and have a love for caps and hats. Ive had a three month relationship, some hookups which I'm not proud of. But at 44 I still have a sex drive. I've been regularly to my local sti clinic. I now feel more confident and can start conversations with guys at the local only gay pub, have more friends and feel ok to flirt a bit.
    I'm quite a masculine guy but I let my feminine traits show through. I've learned alot about my sexuality and what I like to get up to with a guy, but again that's still work in progress.
    But all in all I still feel like I'm not quite there fully with regard to being 100 percent authentic.
     
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  4. SemiCharmedLife

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    This is the first year I'm out at all in my professional life, which was the last frontier for me. Started the coming out process in 2013/2014
     
  5. BothWaysSecret

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    I think I'm still acheiving that. While I figured out I was bisexual about three years ago, and have been authentic to myself, I am not widely out so I'm not my authentic self to the world, save for like three or four people.
     
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    28 years, no kidding. I really started living fully two years ago.