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How long did it take for your parents to accept you?

Discussion in 'For Parents and Family Members of LGBT People' started by dyl pickle, Mar 28, 2017.

  1. Username26

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    I'm straight, but I completely accept the LGBTQ+ community! I just don't understand why some parents, even if they swore hundreds of times they'd love you no matter what, suddenly shun you and treat you worse than some foul thing they scraped off the sole of their shoe the instant you come out to them. It breaks my heart. I've decided that in the future, I'm going to make certain that my children feel loved, no matter if they're LGBTQ+, etc etc etc. Know that I am on your side and that I will support you, regardless of who you love. That's your choice entirely, and I don't interfere with others' choices and others' lives. Best of luck to you !!
     
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  2. StephanieD

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    I havent come out yet but my older sister told my parents that she was dating a girl over a year ago and they still arent fine with it. They are very religious and not open to any opinions other than the ones that agree with the bible. I think that maybe one day they will slowly start to realize that their view on the lgbt+ community is very closed-minded and start to accept a little more, but as for now there isnt much hope.
     
  3. PatrickUK

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    I don't think any of us can really, truthfully answer this question. My parents hardly flinched when I told them, but I think that's only because I prepared them in advance and told them I needed to talk about something important. They knew something was coming and mentally braced themselves. In reality, I'm sure there was at least some pain or disappointment when I said I am gay and that's only to be expected.

    Before we can come out to anyone else we need to come out to ourselves and how long does that take? For most of us it's a process and it can be long, painful and arduous. So if it takes us some time to accept ourselves, is it not reasonable to expect that our parents will need some time too? I think it is and I think we need to understand that. We can't just hit them with it and think it will be drinks and celebrations all round.