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How long did it take for your parents to accept you?

Discussion in 'For Parents and Family Members of LGBT People' started by dyl pickle, Mar 28, 2017.

  1. artition

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    Mom- 4 years. She tought I was kidding the first time.
    Dad- 7 years (just this year)
     
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    If it helps at all, I am 52 and straight and my parents have never accepted me. *only half-joking*
     
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    Accepted it after about a week (when I forced my da to come to my place and grab a drink with me), still incredibly awkward after 7 months though. My family is pretty awesome, but currently, we are at a "don't ask don't tell" stage concerning everything gay...
     
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    Mine never have. I'm 34. I came out at 14, cant remember exactly how it happened (in therapy for that and diagnosed with PTSD), but they booted me out the house at 14 and never came looking for me. My whole extended family the same.

    Religion. It needs to be banned.
     
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    My mum immediately accepted me. I think my dad still doesn't, he just tolerates my sexual orientation. My grandmother didn't want to see me for a few months.
     
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    Considering I'm not even fully out yet, and that discussing my sexuality with my mom has been fairly recent (last couple of years, and briefly when I was in high school), she's still trying to accept it. She's in denial pretty bad though, and she still insists that I'll find a husband or boyfriend, and she sometimes tells me that I just "think" that I'm a lesbian lol. So she's got a ways to go before she accepts me....then again, I do too. As for my father, he's not involved in my life, and never has been; we don't talk or see each other, so that's one less person I have to come out to.
     
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    They "accepted" me right away, but I'm not sure if they're even supportive at all (I came out to them the first time last year). We don't talk about it anymore and they don't respect my pronouns.
     
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    That's like the peak of apathy towards your child's sexual life. When you forget they are gay lmao.
     
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    Most likely they won't both ever accept me, life's tough but I'm going to be happy when I find someone.
     
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    It took years to open her mind up. When I did come out, she was finally open-minded, and she was fine.
     
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    My mom loves and accepts me for who I am but doesnt know how she'll react if and when I bring a guy home. My dad is pretty much the same but he never mentions anything of my sexuality.
     
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    I haven't come out yet, but my mom is bi, my dad is an ally, and my best friend is bi, so that helps.
     
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    My mother was a tiny bit freaked out but now she jokes about her way of coping I guess. My dad will never find out.
     
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    Firstly, omg I love your picture. Assasination Classroom Yayyy!!!!! Secondly, Man don't even get me started. My Mum is super homophobic I learnt that at a young age so I'm not even mentioning it to her. I feel content as long as I have a set of good friends and my siblings understand me.
     
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    About a year ago I decided to come out to my mom, to see how she would react to me being a demiboy. She pestered me for any sign that I actually was, like having these feelings sonde I was very young. Since I didn't even know what a demiboy was before age 11, I said that I just read the meaning and it clicked, this is who I am. As usual she said that I was just immitating my favorite youtuber, who had come out as trans
     
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    Within seconds. Some people are luckier than others.
     
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    dad, pretty much right away
    mom, a good 5 to 10 years