I wanna get over herrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!! I have ebbs and flows, I know that's normal. Still, I want it to be over. I don't wanna think about her. I don't wanna compare anyone new to her (anymore). Grrrrrr! I have no one to get over her with. I once told a sex therapist this, that I was having trouble getting over her because I didn't have anyone to get over her with and her jaw dropped and she very sarcastically said, "Ummm, you're married" while pointing to my husband. It just ain't the same, not to me! I've tried to meet new women and that hasn't really gone anywhere. Was talking to a chick for 3 weeks who was on a different page than I am and eventually, I woke up to a message that she had sent me which was a link to Katy Perry's song, Hot N Cold. Apparently, I was giving her the push-and-pull vibe and eventually she went on her merry way. Certainly, I didn't mean to push her away. This is all so new to me. I'm rushing to meet another woman, mainly, to get over her. How long did it take you to get over your trigger crush completely? ---------- Post added 19th Jul 2016 at 02:09 PM ---------- In the meantime, I'll look at pictures of Phoebe Cates. My latest crush.