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How do you know you're in love? How does it feel?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by lovetoomuch, Feb 12, 2020.

  1. lovetoomuch

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    I've read a few forum posts on other sites about these questions and I'm curious what you all think. The difference between infatuation and love?

    I was reading some posts saying if you question it you're probably not. I am someone who overthinks everything and always questions my emotions. So for me, I would probably question love even when I found it.

    This most recent heartbreak is killing me. As someone who has never cried over a guy before, I've balled my eyes out for days now. It certainly felt like love. I'd just like to hear your opinions on it.

    Thanks!
     
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    An overwhelming feeling of safety and happiness just by seeing the other person, even for a few seconds. The feeling that something is missing all day but you can't quite figure out why it feels like something is missing, until you see the other person and suddenly it doesn't feel like something is missing anymore. When your problems don't seem nearly as bad or stressful anymore within minutes of seeing the other person.
     
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    I feel like love is defined through instincts. I'm someone who has a hard time when it comes to constantly questioning my reality, wondering if I'm seeing the right things, etc. So, I usually rely on the first thing I do in a situation or what I initially feel to tell me what I'm feeling. So for me, love feels like a constant gravitational pull; wanting to be around them and instinctively reaching out to them. It's wanting to do everything in my power to keep them happy and safe. The more I think about it, the more "in my head" about it I get.
     
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    One of my favorite bands, The Regrettes, summed up love in their album-into spoken word poem "Are You In Love?"...

    Are you in love?
    Do you feel it in your stomach?
    Does it twist, and turn, and scream, and burn
    And start to make you cry, but you like it?

    Don't want to let it slip away
    Does it stretch up to your throat
    Until you don't know what to say?
    Does it hold you under its pillow in the night?
    It kills you with its passion
    And its endless beam of light

    When you see yourself
    In the future, frail and gray
    Who do you want beside you
    When you wake to start your day?
    Yeah, it's extreme
    I know what you're going to say
    I'm being too dramatic
    But this feeling feels this way

    Are you in love?
    Do you feel it in your spine?
    Shaking, waking, tearing, breaking
    Taking its sweet time
    But you want it, yeah
    You need it just to breathe
    You're never sure of what trick
    It's pulling from its sleeve

    If you said yes
    To all the things above
    Then yes, my friend, I'm sorry
    It appears you are in love