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How do you guys feel about kissing on the first date?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by RemakeJake, Jul 10, 2015.

  1. happydavid

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    It depends on the other person and what kind of kiss it is
     
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    If it goes well, I say "why not?"

    If it goes *really well,* I say "why not more?" (!)
     
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    And in some cases, sex is the main activity on the first date. Perhaps even the only activity.
     
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    You wanna do it, go for it.

    You wanna have sex, go for it.


    We'll just be here, hugging while we watch a corny, yet romantic film.
     
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    The vast majority for stuff I've had with guys has been a result of hella spontaneous kissing/making out, the dates coming after so it's never been something I have to think about a whole lot, though If it goes well and the other persons comfortable with it, why not?
    With girls my romantic histories a bit of a grey area so not sure how I'd handle that
     
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    The vast majority for stuff I've had with guys has been a result of hella spontaneous kissing/making out, the dates coming after so it's never been something I have to think about a whole lot, though If it goes well and the other persons comfortable with it, why not?
    With girls my romantic histories a bit of a grey area so not sure how I'd handle that
     
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    Now a woman who'll kiss on the very first date is usually a hussy
    And a woman who'll kiss on the second time out is anything but fussy
    But a woman who'll wait till the third time around
    Head in the clouds, feet on the ground
    She's the girl he's glad he's found--she's his Shipoopi

    So you see: we all need to find our shipoopi. I don't think a kiss on the first date is ideal or necessary. I wouldn't expect it and I wouldn't go for it.
     
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    I'm okay with it, if I really like her I'd be super open to kissing on the first date.

    Honestly, my general philosophy is-do your thing, as long as both parties are comfortable with it and consent to it. If you're more the wait after several dates to be physically affectionate, cool, if you're down to have sex on the first date, that's cool too.
     
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    Hell yeah, I don't mind. It tells me a lot about how the relationship could work out because kissing is so important to me!
     
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    Being that my first date will always be in public for safety reasons, I don't find kissing the best idea in a homophobic area.
     
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    I've only been on one date so far and my date kissed me, but I was fine with that. Even though I've only been on that one, I think it's safe to say that I'd be ok with kissing on the first date, as long as there's good chemistry between us and the date went well.
     
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    Before I dared to date I thought I had a limit what to do and not on a first date. Kissing and everything from that was on the "What not to do list". And for sex it was like "I will only sleep with som one I know really well and feel a deep soul connection with".

    But then I met this guy through a popular dating app and we went on a first date (and it was like my first date in 8 years) and it was really like one could touch the chemistry between us. So I brought him home and we spent the rest of the evening making out, the second date we had sex and nowadays we're friends with benefits, I don't regret a thing!

    What I mean is, it's easy to make rules on beforehand, but when one is actually in the situation it may just feel SO right to break them.
     
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    I would. Just a quick one, to make them want more! :slight_smile:
     
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    I had more then a kiss on my first ever date :icon_redf. But kissing on a first date is good.
     
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    I think it's fine if you know the person well before the date, and there is a spark. I wouldn't want to force it though. If you can hold hands and be relaxed I would be fine with it.
     
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    I wouldn't feel comfortable doing it unless I knew her well before the date. Then again, I wouldn't even date someone who I didn't know well, so there's no point in saying that; lol.

    I wouldn't want the first kiss to be forced, no matter how many dates we've been on. I'd want it to happen naturally.
     
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    If I new my date for a while before the date then I probably would but if my date was a stranger then I wouldn't.