How do you get over someone you were never with?

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Ok so I remember when I first told my friend I loved her she didn't really say it back but I have said it so often now she is more comfortable saying it to me. She is not an explore ur feelings kind of person but I think I have helped changed some of that about her. She says it to me now readily. Thing is I have no problem saying anything at all as long as it is true. And it's true. I do love her. The question could be asked in what way. She asked me once how I loved her. U told her Jack's Titanic Love. She started crying. We left it there.
I know it will be hard for you. It was hard for me but you will be better off.

 

Haha I’m so sorry I didn’t know about the rules and how do you turn on notifs? I’ll check when I charge my phone

 

Ok so from what I just heard, it sounds like she is having a battle with herself on how she feels and it would be good for both of you to spend some time for her. It’s good for her because she can take time to realize how she feels and it’s good for you because it will help you distance yourself from her and maybe she will get off your mind. It won’t be easy but at least it will be better.

 

I think asking her would be a great idea actually. The answer May vary but at least you know why

 

Btw I’m sorry for saying this but I’ve been having issues as well and I wanted your opinion on it. I created a thread as well called “does my straight friend like me” and I would really like your input. I would honestly trust your input

 

Starmotive I think you just have to ask exactly what you want to know. I think you will be mad at yourself if it remains unsaid. As a best friend you deserve to have answers. If she doesn't want to respond, fine that's on her but at least you did your part and asked her. Believe me I have been struggling with these for so long I think I could write a book. My biggest regrets involve not tackling the issue head on and not taking a more direct approach in a faster manner. I didn't have to hurt for so long

 

I didn't read all the post on this thread so if it's been said before I apologize. I think you should talk to her about it, I'm not a fan of the we need space thing, because honestly when they're your best friend you're double punishing yourself. If she's that close a friend talk with her, she might not feel the same or maybe she does.. but if you can understand each others points of view then you can find a way to stay friends *or more who knows*

 

Once you find out why she said no just remember you don't have to agree with her to respect her opinion. Good luck

 

I've been in your shoes before and it is awful Not sure where you're at right now with this but I do think letting the person know your feelings if you haven't already is a good step. If you've put it out there and it's not reciprocated, the only way to truly move on is to distance yourself from the person, unfortunately. It's a painful bargain, but a necessary one for you to find peace of mind and happiness again. Sending love and hugs <3

 

You should ask, if you're able to really understand why she said no there is a chance that you can get over her without having to spend a lot of time apart.

 

Good luck